Community Chat

[grandma r]

Have thank you notes become a thing of the past?  Just curious.  Yes, I am older, however, we learned that sending a "thank you" was important and polite.

Over the past few years I've noticed that a number of younger adults don't send any thank you for shower, wedding, or graduation gifts.

[bonappetit]

Yes, apparently manners are not in fashion today. I don't receive any acknowledgements, or thank you notes.

[Kachina624]

Apparently they are because I surely haven't gotten any lately.

[VanSleepy]

I see this complaint a lot.  I guess my friends raised their children right - I always get a thank you note for weddings, showers, birthdays, etc. 

[spiderw]

This is just another ill mannered issue out there, not thanking a person.  I too was taught to write thank you notes and still do.  I also thank by e-mail at times depending on the situation.  I do have family members who thank me and others who do not.  Thanking someone is a courtesy which should be taught by parents and reinforced at school.  It is rude to not acknowledge a gift or whatever is exchanged and it can hurt also.

[Financialgrl]

Half and half.  I'm lucky - my sister's kids are in their 20s and it's like that was branded into their brains growing up.  Her daughter has ALWAYS sent thank you cards and what I love - each card is personalized as to the gift you sent and always a lovely thought about how thankful she is that we (family) are in her life.  Her brother - well I've always gotten a card from him as well but he's a 24 y/o guy so his message is almost always - "thank you for the money - I intend to use this toward ________)"  - one that probably is the same on all the cards he sends - BUT hey I'll take that!  It's funny cuz when he graduated I got a call from my sister - checking up to see if he'd sent TY cards.  Had he not done so he'd have heard about it from her.  

OTOH, my brother's kids - have never seen a TY card from any of the 3 of them.  

[lovesrecess]

Manners never go out of style, but thank you notes seem to be. I still think all gifts should be acknowledged with a note of appreciation. I hate online thank-yous...disrespectful in my opinion. Even some of our grandkids have failed to even acknowledge a gift we have sent....my son called and said Johnny said to tell you thanks for the gift...Johnny is 14.... he can thank me himself!

[lovesrecess]

Are you tempted not to send another gift to a person who doesn't acknowledge one ?

[willdob3]

@grandma r

Thank you has become a thing of the past when it comes to younger people.  It’s are nice but I’d be happy to get a thank you email or text.

[blackhole99]

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@lovesrecess wrote:
Are you tempted not to send another gift to a person who doesn't acknowledge one ?

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If I don't get an acknowledgement that you received my gift, you will never get another. If the kids do not want to write thank you notes they can email, text, or even call. Good manners is never out of fashion or obsolete.