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[dex]

@chihuahuamom Since it is only once a week and you don't have much other contact after the hug....I would let it go.She probably enjoys trying to be pretty and smelling pretty is about all she has left at her age.I remember the philosophy girls always said that  scent lifts your spirits and draws people in.I know that isn't always true but she might feel that way.I try to think when I am in a situation that isn't going well for me that it is a test of my character.

[hoosieroriginal]

Perfumes should be banned - there are too many people out there with allergies to that stuff.  I hate being around people with perfume on.  Worked with an attorney who poured old lady perfume on every day - the attorneys had an intervention with her and told her to stop wearing it - it was giving everyone headaches.

[brandiwine]

I hate when people go out in public with a strong scent.  It's so rude to others and especially thoughtless to those with allergies and asthma.  So many women add a little "extra" because they can no longer smell it.  They don't seem to realize the rest of the world has to live with it.  Our DR's offices have banned all perfumes and aftershaves.  When I was working it was banned there as well.  Be thoughtful to others and wear it in your own home.

[henderson]

My brother-in-law, who passed away a few years ago had my sister tell my mom that he was alllergic to fragrance so my mom didn't wear perfume around him.  My mom would put on so much it really bothered him.  Found out later he really wasn't allergic, but that's how they handled it.  Of course, this was a different situation that you.

[wonderfulworld]

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@dex wrote:

@chihuahuamom Since it is only once a week and you don't have much other contact after the hug....I would let it go.She probably enjoys trying to be pretty and smelling pretty is about all she has left at her age.I remember the philosophy girls always said that  scent lifts your spirits and draws people in.I know that isn't always true but she might feel that way.I try to think when I am in a situation that isn't going well for me that it is a test of my character.

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You sound like a very kind person. I totally agree.

[SharkE]

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@henderson wrote:

My brother-in-law, who passed away a few years ago had my sister tell my mom that he was alllergic to fragrance so my mom didn't wear perfume around him.  My mom would put on so much it really bothered him.  Found out later he really wasn't allergic, but that's how they handled it.  Of course, this was a different situation that you.

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LOL

[noodleann]

This reminds me of a similar problem I had, minus the hugging bit. A woman who customarily sat in front of me in church wore a fragrance that smelled like honey. Ordinarily that would be nice, except it wasn't. There was more to the scent, something dank and  musty, that made it awful. I can shut off my smeller in such situations, and usually did so.

I don't think giving the lady a perfumed gift is a good idea, since you're endorsing the idea of her wearing scent, and  you can't know how it'll react with her chemistry. It may be worse than what she's using now.

If you can't shut off your smeller like I do and it really bothers you, you could speak to the church secretary about considering a no-perfume policy for church services. Like banning peanut butter and shellfish for hospitality hour and open table and potlucks, that's not unusual these days and it doesn't make you an ogre. You may be doing your fellow congregants a big favor.

[sidsmom]

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@chihuahuamom wrote:

I guess you just have to live with things like that, because I don't want to stop hugging her!  

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[chrystaltree]

She'd probably think your lotion was stinky....lol   She doesn't have a problem, you do.  Scent is an individual thing; we all have our own preferences.  I loved my father's mother dearly, she came to visit several times a year and I both loved....and hated her visits.  I really didn't like her signature scent, to me it was cloying and sickening and it felt like it took over the house when she visited.  It didn't bother anyone else, they didn't care for it but it didn't affect them they way it did me.  Later in life when I was a teen and Charlie became my signature scent, my middle sister had the same reaction.  She hated it!  Omg...the arguments we had over it.  She always accused me of wearing too much....I didn't.   Accept it for what it is, a  minor inconvenience for a few moments, once a week.  Forget the scent, think of the hug.   After my Granda Helen had a stroke and didn't visit anymore....I would have given anything to walk into my house and smell her "awful" perfume.  Anything....

[ROMARY]

I've known a few seniors who simply lost all of their sense of smell.  Actually, when I think about it, I'm glad that I have a strong sense of smell.  Medically-wise, it's a good sign, from what I've heard.  .............. Anyway, there must be a lot of non-seniors who have also lost their sense of smell.  There are a few in the neighborhood who have cars containing scents that one can smell clear across the street (when their windows are rolled down and/or when opening their car doors).   I'd 'pass out' in no-time, just driving for a block or two. ........... Edited: Some could be those car interior fragrances because some of those car drivers are men.  That, or their wives' fragrance scents remain indefinitely in those cars.