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[sharibel]

Hi,

I don't think I've ever posted in VP. I thought this would be the most logical place to post my problem. I'd like to know what you would think or do in the following situation.

My husband is not well but it is not a terminal situation. He still may have many years. We don't know yet. His two greedy adult children are waiting for their inheritance. His son is retired from the court system. Both kids are giving me a very hard time during what is a very stressful time for my husband and myself. They do not agree with all our choices and the way we have decided to handle things. That's the background.

His son has made it known to me almost in terms of a threat that he knows many people in high places in the court system. Out of the clear blue the other day he gave me information about his father that he would have had to have accessed in a database. In other words I think he was trying to let me know that he has the ability either himself or through his contacts in the court system to find out anything he wants about his father and about me as well.

Call me paranoid or someone with an overactive imagination but I'm really concerned that he can cause some kind of problem for me in terms of anything you could think of . . parking violations, my city pension or health benefits, even identity theft. I just don't know.

I wouldn't doubt that he is investigating us in some way and it is obviously unethical at the very least or illegal.

Would you be concerned? If so what would you do? This has really been keeping me up at night on top of what we are dealing with.