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[occasionalrain]

@eadu4 

How can you know she wasn't looking to steal something? Maybe she didn't find anything she fancied?  Some posters are trying to minimize what she did, make excuses for her, and blame the adults for boring her when there is no excuse for her behavior. Did she ask if she could go upstairs and do a search? Did she do it in plain sight during the times she stayed over? Why not if she thought it acceptable?

[Cakers3]

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@Trinity11 wrote:

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@Biftu wrote:

@Trinity11 I am absoutely sure it was her.  Everybody else stayed outside.  She was the only one who went inside.

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You mean none of your guests @Biftu went inside to the powder room? Without proof with a camera, I would reserve judgement. Someone key scratched my friend's car. She claimed only one person could have done it. Footage from a neighbor's camera proved otherwise.😳

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@Trinity11   I didn't know people still used the term "powder room".  LOL

I do agree, though, that anyone could have been the snoop.

[Cakers3]

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@Biftu wrote:

@eadu4  I agree with eveything you said.  She has stayed overnight at my house many times and guess she feels cmfortable here which I'm glad she is.  Yes, old folks are boring for kids.  I tried to keep her busy with sparklers and talking to her about school and her activities.  I was just glad to see she wasn't on a tablet all day like her father was.  She's a sweet girl.  Guess I was just surprised when I went upstairs.

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@Biftu   There it is.  No wonder.

[eadu4]

@occasionalrain  With all due respect lets take your objections one at time shall we?  The poster further commented she knew the girl, she has stayed overnight and apparently trusts her.  You're automatic jump to she was trying to steal something is a kind of a big assumption.  The OP stated the girl looked behind the shower curtain, to steal what? Soap?  Moved a blanket, what maybe money under the blanket?  Seriously?  Sounds like she just was looking around.  Opening the desk drawer does NOT constitute looking for money.  Kids are curious and yes some are kind of weird about what they want to look at 

     I am NOT making excuses for her but you want to try to frame her behavior as manevolent and evil and you don't know her.  You frame her actions in an adult context.  She is 10, and as the OP stated she was familiar with the house and the people.  Should she have asked?  Sure, absolutely but she didn't commit a crime.  Geez. 

       You do NOT know what her parents told her before they left as to what type of gathering they were going to.  I feel sorry for you that you automatically jump to a crime if a kid is in a room that you feel they should not be in.  Apparently she wasn't instructed as to any particular behavior.   Some kids are curious and that's all it is. Impolite, sure, but lesson learned by the OP to just let the girl know the boundaries next time.  I'm not "excusing" her behavior but unlike you I'm not going to jump to some nefarious conclusion either.  She was wrong yes...but it happened, so again lesson learned.  

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[TheMemphisVette]

it wasn't long ago some kids were call hooligans on here.

kids that need a bit of direction are normal.

we all needed it.

[chrystaltree]

Why would you allow an unaccompanied 10 year to have access to your entire home and get into anything she wanted?  She's 10 for heaven's sakes, you should have had something to keep her entertained.  Puzzles, coloring book, a kid's movie on TV.  I doubt that her parents are clairvoyant who could forsee that their bored child would be allowed to wander and explore.  What happened is on you.  I have 9 year old living in my home and if she's "gone" for too long or way too quiet for too long, I go and see what she's up to.  Last week, she was in the kitchen making a fruit platter with all the fruit that was in the fridge....and all the Cool Whip and strawberry jam.  Because she watches cooking shows.  Kid's are kids.

[Justholdingon]

And this is why I don't like having guests in my house, be it relatives or friends. We only have one bathroom and the bedrooms are all upstairs, so I can't very well follow everyone while they go upstairs.

My husband always begs to have his relatives here, but his relatives are always in our bedroom sprawled on our bed watching tv because there's always a ton of people talking in the living room downstairs  and once his teen nephews had swiped beer and went up to our furnished attic to drink them. I found the bottles after they left.

They make themselves too much at home.

[chrystaltree]

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@Justholdingon wrote:

And this is why I don't like having guests in my house, be it relatives or friends. We only have one bathroom and the bedrooms are all upstairs, so I can't very well follow everyone while they go upstairs.

My husband always begs to have his relatives here, but his relatives are always in our bedroom sprawled on our bed watching tv because there's always a ton of people talking in the living room downstairs  and once his teen nephews had swiped beer and went up to our furnished attic to drink them. I found the bottles after they left.

They make themselves too much at home.

That's called having a family....lol

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[CrazyKittyLvr2]

Guests, family or not, sprawling on my bed, teens swiping booze is a he** no.

I want people being comfy when visiting but not that comforable.

My sister and I did not hesitate to get something from the fridge when being at each other's homes. I certainly wouldn't do it anywhere else.

When DH and I took our kids to someone's home it was our responsibility to make sure they behaved and not run amuk like they were raised by wolves lol

[lgfan]

@Justholdingon "We only have one bathroom and the bedrooms are all upstairs, so I can't very well follow everyone while they go upstairs."

You need to put locks on your bedroom doors.  That is what I did many years ago when I lived in a house.  I now live in a condominium.  I had to put a lock on my bedroom door because the bathroom was right next to my room.  People would constantly walk into my room thinking it was the bathroom.  If you put locks on your bedroom doors you won't have a problem with nosy people.