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[occasionalrain]

@spumoni99 

Are you telling us all ten/eleven year old girls are like your grandchildren?  Do you believe that? Perhaps you should watch the news.

[kittyloo]

anymore, anything said to the parents would probably backfire.  parents as a rule, don't lay any blame on what their children do.   It was your fault for allowing her access.  if you didn't want her in your room snooping you should have locked the door or barracaded it.  

Not that i agree with this, but i can just see the tables turning and them trying to make it your fault. 

[spumoni99]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

@spumoni99 

Are you telling us all ten/eleven year old girls are like your grandchildren?  Do you believe that? Perhaps you should watch the news.

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No of course not but I don't think most 10 year olds are that diabolical I guess.  

[Solar Is My Name]

@Shanus A perfect and well-thoughtout comment. I agree with what you wrote.

-Solar 

[eadu4]

@occasionalrain  Yes she could have brought her own entertainment if she realized what she was getting into.  If the parents didn't explain the situation how was she to know?  And wander around the neighborhood alone?  What if she didn't know the neighborhood?  These are sketchy times.  I would NEVER let a 10 year old girl wander around outside by herself.  Period. 

     And to someone who said she was looking for money?  Seriously?  You know that how?  Did you ask her?  So she got up and looked around and you brand her a thief geesh. 

      Yes if she had an IPad her Mom should have told her to bring it.  My grands always have theirs.  But since no one knows what her parents told her about where they were going, we have nothing to go on as to "she should have known".  To sit there staring at a wall, not really understanding or even being part of any conversation, I find more than little rude to make her do that.   I get the whole manners thing but come on, it's not like at any point any one of the adults in the room could have taken a few minutes to either ask if she could watch a TV,  or something.  You act like the adults should have just left her in a corner and she should have been happy about it and just amused herself staring at a wall.

     No, opening drawers and wandering around wasn't polite, but it's not a criminal offense.  People be on here like "she was looking to steal something".  "she wasn't brought up right" , "she was never taught manners".  I was taught to pay attention to all my guests adult and children.  I always made sure the kids had something to do.  I made sure they had snacks and drinks.  Yes a 10 year old should know better, but in this case the adults most certainly should have done better. 

[Solar Is My Name]

My daugher had a birthday party for her 6 year-old. She had many things to entertain them. When the party started she got their attention and told them that they should NOT go upstairs. Later she found a little girl upstairs...

-Solar 

[eadu4]

@Biftu  I know my grands become quickly bored with "adult" things.  And at 10 you're kinda at an awkward age.  Not quite a teen but not a little girl.  Just maybe like you said she felt comfortable enough to just leave the room and wander around and figured you wouldn't mind.  Again, I agree it's not polite but you tried to occupy her.  :-)  I'm sure she really is a good kid.  Kids have a shorter attention span now.  It's sad but true.  And they kinda expect to be entertained.  Sometimes all you can do is put a movie on for them.  Some kids just don't like to talk much.  

[alliswell]

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@781Florist wrote:

I know, I know...we are not in the Bronze Age anymore, but

some practices should be timeless. 

As children we were taught (drilled?) that when in other people's homes we could go into whatever room we were invited into. 

If you entered the kitchen you stayed there unless you were invited into the den.  You NEVER went anywhere without being accompanied or invited. Special exemption---the bathroom.

Also, I don't know if it was a rule peculiar to my family or not, but you would absolutely positively never go into someone's refrigerator.  I still don't go in other folks' refrigerators 

and I am 70.  (O.K., my sister's  if they tell me to!!)

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@781Florist   Your post pretty much echoed my childhood as well.

[paixmcdao]

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@Biftu wrote:

@eadu4  I agree with eveything you said.  She has stayed overnight at my house many times and guess she feels cmfortable here which I'm glad she is.  Yes, old folks are boring for kids.  I tried to keep her busy with sparklers and talking to her about school and her activities.  I was just glad to see she wasn't on a tablet all day like her father was.  She's a sweet girl.  Guess I was just surprised when I went upstairs.

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Her father was on a tablet all day while visiting you? 

[Cakers3]

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@Biftu wrote:

i had guests this past weekend who didn't stay overnight but the ten year old daughter was bored with all adult company (I don't blame her) so she went upstairs in my house to do what I don't know.  When they left I went upstairs to find my desk drawers open, the storage bench where I keep off season linens must have been opened because the folded blanket on top was moved, my shower curtain was pulled back, the linen closet was slightly ajar.  Who knows what else she got into.  She's a sweet girl, but I guess her nickname should be Snoopy.  Adults should discourage this type of behavior if there aware their children have these tendencies.

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@Biftu   Her behavior is not acceptable but why was she allowed upstairs?

I am reading that this child was ignored and left to entertain herself.

She is ten years old, bored silly with all the adults, and my opinion is that the parents should have provided an outlet for their daughter or at least included her in some type of activity.

Who is to say she has "these tendencies"??