Re: Snooping Guest

granddi · ‎03-16-2010

I had an adult do the snooping. My niece's husband picks up and looks at items on my desk. After seeing him do this, we removed everything off the desk anytime he came to our house.

I told his mother in law about what he does. She said yes, he does this at my house too. I think its just his ADD and its harmless. Sorry I disagree.

Biftu · ‎02-05-2011

@drizzellla wrote:
@Biftu I know how you feel. But I really don't have an answer. Wish I did.

My brother brought his girlfriend to stay at our house for several days. I happened to walk into MY bedroom and there she was going through my underwear drawer. I asked her if she was looking for something, she said "no", closed the drawer and walked away.

Then my other brother was staying at our house for over a week. I had settled my parents estate. Before it was settled I made copies of everything and said that my brothers could have copies of everything. It took awhile to finally settle the estate because my Dad had a stroke and my Mom kept no records. I had no idea what assets they had. She also shreded all records of "gifts" my parents had given this brother through the years.

So when I was at work my brother went through all financial records in the house. He also made copies. Because with the tax returns to the city, state and IRS, I had all original copies. After his rummaging through everything, there were copies and originals all mixed up.

I have learned that when you open your house to people, there are going to be sneaks. And also things missing. It is just the nature of some people. And you can't stop it.

@drizzellla Oh my. I certainly have nothing to complain about.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

Making excuses is not doing her a favor or her parents. In future, she and they will find themselves excluded and deserve to be.

ThinkingOutLoud · ‎05-01-2020

@eadu4 wrote:
@Biftu I'm sure you expected her to sit there quietly, not do anything and listen to adult conversation? I guarantee she got bored. I'm surprised the parents didn't bring something to keep her busy with. If they didn't I sure as heck would have shown her the TV, movies, I always have games and stuff for kids should someone come with a child.
Everyone on here talking about manners and how she should have been a good girl etc...good grief. You expected a ten year old girl to sit with a bunch of older people for hours and do what? Seriously. Ok so she got up and wandered and checked out some stuff. I don't call it snooping I call it "hello, adults in the room, you have a child here that is extremely bored with nothing to do" No one including adults like to be stuck in a room of boring people. I know people will say "back in my day you did what you were told and sat there and did nothing." Yeah and guess what? You were miserable. Put yourself back there. Why would you want someone else to be miserable? I try to put myself in the kids shoes. If I would be bored then I find something for them to do.

Manners can be simply asking to go outside for a while or asking if she can go in another room and read. Neither of which would require sitting there for hours like a good girl as you insinuate.

Biftu · ‎02-05-2011

@eadu4 I agree with eveything you said. She has stayed overnight at my house many times and guess she feels cmfortable here which I'm glad she is. Yes, old folks are boring for kids. I tried to keep her busy with sparklers and talking to her about school and her activities. I was just glad to see she wasn't on a tablet all day like her father was. She's a sweet girl. Guess I was just surprised when I went upstairs.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

Are you absolutely sure it was the 10 year old snooping? You had guests in the plural. Unless I caught the 10 year old in the act, I would reserve judgement before accusing her.

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

@occasionalrain wrote:
Making excuses is not doing her a favor or her parents. In future, she and they will find themselves excluded and deserve to be.

Unless you actually saw her snooping, you have no right to accuse her.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

Plans for dealing with visitors:

A. "Oh dear, I'm sorry but please don't go upstairs. It isn't ready for visitors."

B ."Sweetheart, don't go upstairs."

C. "You need to keep your child on the first floor as I asked."

D. "You need to leave." (Practice and repeat this five times daily when you get up. It is one of the most important phrases in the English language when said with vigor and determination. Practice saying it firmly and calmly, looking straight into the perp's eye! Over my long life I have become famous for it.)

Harpa · ‎03-10-2010

When we were kids and visited family or parents' friends, we sat on the sofa and that was that!

But how about a snooping granddaughter? My soon-to-be 6 year old GD snooped in my walk in closet and found 2 of her birthday presents. This was a couple of weeks ago. (I knew prying, curious little people had been in there!)

Yesterday when we went over for the holiday, she mentioned about those gifts! I just (cough) politely, but sternly told all the grand children that my walk in closet is off limits!! As is my bedroom!