Community Chat

[Ms tyrion2]

If you don't want him, send him over here!

Seriously though, it is not easy to meet a man with the attributes you describe. For me, marriage is not a big deal. I value my independence and I enjoy time with my friends. A nice man to socialize with would be all I'm looking for.  At this stage of life, I wouldn't want to mix finances--unless he was a multi-gazillionaire...lol

[Pearlee]

@Goodie2shoes  Stay if you are enjoying the relationship, until it gets too hurtful to you because he doesn't want to marry you.  If and when that happens, then go.  Unless that's already the case, then go.

[sunshine45]

you have kids, he has kids.

you have money, he has money.

you have property, he has property

you dont need his money, he doesnt need your money.

sounds like you dont need a piece of paper or ANY complications further down the road with family members. if you two are a great match, dont spoil it by wanting a marriage.

(i am younger than you and have been married once......never want to do it again.)

[DiAnne]

To me is sounds like a really good deal right now.  You have your privacy and can do whatever you want.  You don't have to be a maid or housekeeper if you don't want to.  

[YorkieonmyPillow]

@Goodie2shoes   Why do you want to be married?

[SharkE]

I'm with him. Once mine is gone I'm not marrying again. Woman now days doesn't have to be married. Send 'em home with a cheery farewell.

I'm going to enjoy life who in the world wants to get # 2. LOL

[mac116]

Your situation sounds ideal to me with companionship and independence.  I would never want to remarry either. 

[Goodie2shoes]

Hi all, it took me a while to decide on posting my delema and now that I have, I so appreciate all of your responses. I  was very fortunate to find such a wonderful man and I agree with those who say at this stage of life it's not easy to find someone with such wonderful qualities. He is the best man I have ever known and that includes the father of my 2 children. He respects me, he is very clean ( says that comes from being in the military, very strict rules)  To answer some of your questions, no I do not believe in living together and I know I have the best of both worlds. He is the real deal and I love him very much and when I asked him what he is passionate about he says I'm the one . When I asked him why did I get so lucky, he said why not ?  This has me nearly in tears now because I feel so torn. Again I appreciate each and every response, this is hard

[YorkieonmyPillow]

@Goodie2shoes  I don't think anyone here can give you a proper answer until you explain WHY you want to be married.

I would like to know where you are coming from.

[SharkE]

Yeah, (might be a religious thing , too)