Rudeness from stranger. What would you do? - Page 8

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

i hate those two words....."shut up!"

they do bother me quite a lot. growing up we were NEVER allowed to say those words.

he could have asked you in a much better way.

that being said, there is a difference between typical gym noise and conversations. i dont particularly like having to be next to someone who is carrying on a conversation with someone else who is there or someone else who may be on the phone. it really isnt the place.

i am there to focus, concentrate, work out, relax, and be "in the zone." i do bring earbuds to try and block out anything other than music or a tv show i am watching there.

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occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

I know of no one who wants to listen to prattle from others near them, whether on their cell or on a treadmill. You and your friend were rude and so was he.

I would have wanted to tell you to shut it too.

NativeJax · ‎01-27-2015

Sunshine: we were not allowed either!!! It was "go pick a switch" if we said that...we also had spankings, restriction and our mouths washed with soap...also I got caught playing with matches and I had to endure a hot match touch my skin...I was a biter until finally my granny bit me back and I never bit anyone or played with matches....I think I am okay?

Suziepeach · ‎03-10-2010

Wow just wow.

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AngusandBuddhasMom · ‎03-10-2010

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
I expect people to be quiet in movie theatres (hahahahahaha, silly me), but don't expect the same from a gym environment.

If someone needs total quiet and lack of disruptive sounds while working out then they should work out at home.

OK let me put this way. That guy was there to work out. Once the OP started carrying on a conversation with her friend she stopped working out. She will say no that she was still working out but honestly not at the same level as she was. I have seen it enough to know when it happens. And is one of the reasons I will go at 5 in the morning to my gym so that I do not run into friends or members. Because I want to just workout and I don't want to be interrupting others or be rude because I like to go into my head and not talk to anyone.

Instead of telling this guy to work out somewhere else when he is working out at his regular time maybe she as I said should have been cognizant of others who are there to workout and not BS. "Giving the excuse I am a regular" well no you are a regular at night and this guy maybe at his regular time and you are interrupting him.

Caligurll · ‎07-20-2014

@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:
Playing devils advocate here is my pov.

I teach on occasion Spin at our local gym as well as having managed and supervised over the years from that stand point I would look at both sides.

Was he rude in his delivery? yes but he obviously felt you were too loud. Not saying you were just looking at his side.

Would I go to management? yes because they should be aware of a situation that may have the potential of escalating. Having had to speak to members I always tried to have an open mind and hear both sides before speaking.

Personally nothing is more annoying then working out and having to listen to someone else's conversation. You may think your not distracting or loud but you could be. When I workout I don't want to hear other people. That is just me and yes being in a public spot that is inevitably going to happen. The trade off of working out in public but that being said, I would hope my fellow gym goers would observe that talking can become distracting and using the excuse music and weights clanking is not pass to carry on conversation. While others around you are trying to concentrate. You don't know where this guys head was at. And just because you are a regular dosen't mean you get to ignore common courtesy of not interrupting others workout.
@AngusandBuddhasMom

ITA ..... I don't know what's typical for that particular gym, but if you can hear a conversation from 3 treadmills away, the OP was talking too loud.

People often want to do their workouts and mind their own business. Yes, he probably could use a good pair of headphones, but that's neither here nor there.

To me, this is the same as people waiting in a line and some dummy is on their phone, talking so loudly that everyone becomes involved, whether they like it or not. It's really annoying.

IMO, a hello/goodbye is fine .... otherwise, take a break and enjoy your actual conversation somewhere else. Not everyone wants to have to listen to you.
Exactly well put!

Also while the OP is a "regular" at night she fails to mention she went during the day. Two different vibes when going to the gym. Day and night are different animals as far as members and how they act. She probably was talking loud if he could hear her 3 treads away.

Common courtesy is all that is needed. I don't think a sign needs to be posted saying to be mindful of your fellow members. Well she wasn't and got an earful. From his stand point she got back exactly what he felt having to listen to her conversation. JMO.

I agree with everything the above posters said. At my gym there are several signs posted saying no cell phone conversations, but this gets ignored frequently. When I'm on the treadmill I am usually reading on my Kindle too, and these conversations are distracting. To be heard over the hum and footfalls of the treadmill, people have to talk louder to be heard and it is so annoying to hear random conversations/laughing.

The sound of the treadmills is very rhythmic and soothing, and hearing loud conversations is disruptive. If it gets too bad I put on my headphones and listen to music, but it annoys me that I have to do that on days I don't want to listen to music but its the only way to drown out these conversations.

When I'm at the gym I expect to hear gym sounds--treadmills, weights being dropped, other equipment clanging--not loud random conversations.

Adamlambert · ‎05-28-2015

cara, I see good friends at the gym that I want to talk to, but we both just smile and keep exercising. Maybe it depends on your ultimate goal?

NativeJax · ‎01-27-2015

The description of the encounter sounded like a random occurrence.... Running into someone and discussing a job search, seems isolated and not something she would typically do at the gym