Community Chat

[CrazyDaisy]

Off hours in casual restaraunts are good places for children to practice their manners.  New places are often different than working with them at home.  Booths are popular with people who have small children since it makes it easier to keep them in their seats. 

[Imaoldhippie]

The fault lies with the parents, lack of discipline with no consequences for their bad behavior.  These are the kids that will most likely end up as school shooters, bullies and just plain mean in general.

[Trinity11]

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@cherrywrote:

We eat our breakfast out every morning ,and maybe, I'm lucky or maybe, kids are just better behaved in the morning, but I have never seen this happen

I don't know what I would do if I came across this situation. I guess I might just leave...I am always heartened by parents taking their children with them. I love children ,and they seem to like me too. 

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@cherry we eat out a lot too ..often dinner and it is a rare event to see some of the scenarios in this thread. If a child is acting up, usually one of the parents take them outside. 

I also think parents today are wonderful. My grandson has great manners at 5. All of the children I encounter in supermarkets are behaved and the neighborhood children always wave and say hi. 

[Regal Bee]

My husband and I eat out often and we have really noticed the increase in the amount of children that are outright screaming at the top of their lungs and the parents say NOTHING to them!

Accckkkkkkk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Trinity11]

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@Ketrawrote:

lovemybeetle wrote: I didn't say I beat my child, I spanked her on her rear. My daughter has grown to be a very respectful and lovely woman who is now a Social Worker helping other children. But she respects people and children. I don't think a spank on the rear is teaching violence. I know people and have seen people who just talk to their children and their children have terrible behavior. I don't believe in beating children and have always talked first. IF that doesn't help or make a difference then..... not beating.

@luvmybeetle I’m with you about the spanking. We wouldn’t have so many bratty little kids growing up into monsters if they got a few spankings. Spankings (not beatings) taught my generation respect for others, manners, and instilled values as to what was right and wrong. We learned early on there are consequences for our actions. In society today there appears to be no consequences for actions. I think doing away with spankings, parents trying to be their child’s best friend instead of parenting, and parents not teaching their children what is right and wrong or any manners is why we are in the situation we are in today.

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Broad brush there. My baby boomer generation was plenty rude during the Hippie years and flower child stuff. I encounter far more rude adults than kids anyway.

Spanking a child is the result of a frustrated parent who can't cope with being a parent. Violence begets violence. 

[cherry]

Hitting anyone is a form of abuse. It's the best way I can think of ,to teach your child to fight, and bully others.

[Vivian]

If the kids are out of control, one of the parents needs to remove the offending child from the restaurant. Other people are paying for a good dining experience and should not be exposed to obnoxious behavior. Sometimes the child can calm down and return to the dining room but if children are acting out in the extreme, they need to leave the restaurant.

[Montana]

I was curious about why diners are seated close together even though there are lots of empty tables. One restaurant manager said it makes serving more efficient.

[software]

The good news it at least it wasn't during rush hour.

Kids fill their diapers all the time, anywhere and anyplace.

That family may be going through a trauma, maybe just left a hospital or funeral home.   Obviously the kids were out of their element --  missed their nap or whatever and we don't know why.    Cut them some slack.

I would have done the same as you did.   Can't count how many times I've had to leave restaurants or other public places because of various reasons, like you encountered.   But I'm sharing this world, it doesn't belong to me it belongs to them too.

Sorry for the lecture but lighten up.

[Spurt]

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@SandPiperwrote:

@TenderMercies I noticed a couple restaurants opening up with signs in the window that say “ adults only”. I know families with children that are upset over this.  Heck my husband works a lot of hours and when he is off and we want a relaxing dinner out we go to one of these restaurants. We are assured a nice quiet dinner.

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Jeez, I'd wonder just what the heck was being served in those restaurants. :-)

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A place where adults can enjoy their meal in a pleasant atmosphere.......