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[CrazyKittyLvr2]

but you.  DD and I went to visit my brother-in-law, 2 nieces & their families on Saurday.  I seemed strange being in my childhood home with my siser gone.

In going thru a ton of old pictures I found one from 1967. Dad, Mom, my sister and I, went to Niagra Falls.  My best friend came with us.  She and I were a couple months shy of 17..

There was a pic of Mom, Sis, friend and myself.  Dad manned the Kodak.

It hit me that I am the only on left of everyone on that trip.

[On It]

@CrazyKittyLvr2 I think that may be the most difficult part of aging.

[golding76]

I am familiar with that pain.  When you think about those who knew you the longest and the most intimately -- and that they are all now gone -- you can feel mighty lonely.  It hurts deeply. 

Whenever I think about this and that the few people I once knew will eventually leave (as I will), I can better understand why some older people no longer feel a great desire to remain. 

[CrazyKittyLvr2]

While I obviously knew they are all gone, seeing us all together in one pic was kind a jolt.

[PhilaLady1]

I completely get it. I don't look at pictures anymore at all. It is too hard for me to look back when most are gone.

[SilleeMee]

I know the feeling. I lost my entire family when I was in my 40s. I'm 66 now and the sadness never goes away. I'm a lone survivor, no kids or a SO. Holidays are the worst.

[lynnie61]

@SilleeMee   you have wonderful posters here that care and enjoy your threads.  Please take care.  So many of the same posters (and possible new friends) on the other forum too!   You always give great beauty advice.  

I sometimes feel lost with part of my family gone.  I can’t imagine losing all of them in my 40s.  I’m 60 now.

[hckynutjohn]

@CrazyKittyLvr2 

Don't have a lot of pictures of our immediate family with all of us together. Only ones left are my older sister and myself. I do not keep them in a place where they are easily seen. Just look at them at times to "remember when"!

My older sister is 88, but is physically and mentally decades younger. That is a down side of adding up chronological years. As we move on, many that were present in much of our life, are gone. It is something i never allow myself to dwell on often.

hckynut 

[Lucky Charm]

I'm so sorry you lost your sister, that's got to be hard.  I can't even imagine.  And especially if she lived in your childhood home.  Going back there would be hard-- without her.

That said, I love looking at pictures of those who are gone.  It's my only real connection, besides the memories.

This is going to sound really weird, but I love looking at Census Reports from 1900 to 1940 because I just imagine the census worker sitting in the *parlor* asking the questions, and my long gone loved ones are answering the questions.  I wish I could see them doing that!

[BoopOMatic]

 I understand because it occurred to me one day there are more people who are dead that I loved than people who are alive.