Question for Widows - Page 4

Regal Bee · ‎07-20-2017

@lovesallanimals I am so sorry for your loss...cry as much as you need to.

I was only 29 when my first husband died...horrible. I wore my ring for about three months but it became too painful and I took it off.

lovesallanimals · ‎03-11-2010

@Regal Bee wrote:
@lovesallanimals I am so sorry for your loss...cry as much as you need to.

I was only 29 when my first husband died...horrible. I wore my ring for about three months but it became too painful and I took it off.

Regal Bee- I am so sorry for your loss, especially at such a young age. What you said about your ring is what hit home for me. I cry when I wear it and I cry when I take it off. I will wear it for now as I cannot let him go, ever.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

I'm so sorry for you ladies who have lost your husbands! I can only imagine how painful and life altering it is.

My own husband is still alive and I am grateful. However he suffered a devastating illness thirteen years ago and has not been how he was before. He is disabled and though he is only two years older than me, some people thought that he was my father since chronic illness can age you drastically.

If he goes before me I will seek out a grief support group. My neighbor found such a group many years ago when her husband suddenly passed and she was left with three school aged children. It helped her immensely and she remained friends with some of those women which helped her to move forward.

@lovesallanimals My deepest condolences. I hope you can find a good grief support group near you. Don't give up trying. I know that in Queens there should be something not too far.

Qgirl26 · ‎03-20-2010

@geezerette wrote:
@matty liz wrote:
Ladies, thank you. My husband died 18 mo. ago, married 62 years. He fell in love with me at 13. At times I dont realize what is wrong but it is because he is gone. Everyone is so busy in these times and doesnt recognize the need for a hug at times. thank you
@matty liz

My sincere sympathies on your loss. 💔

You are so very right. I feel much the same.

My husband and I were together from the time I was a teenager. I spent more of my life with him than without. It still seems wrong to me that he's not here anymore.

It's not something you get over, you get through it because you have to. ❤️‍🩹

Take care.

@geezerette, same for me. We got married insanely young, just 18 and 19. I also spent more time with him than without. It's really hard. And you are so right, you don't get over it, you get through it. What choice do we have?

My heart goes out to everyone here who has lost their spouse, no matter their ages or how long they were married. It's hard!

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

My husband of 50 years passed 6 months ago and I do not wear a ring full time. My ring finger was severely mashed about 40 years ago which greatly impacted wearing a ring. I will wear one of my anniversary bands occasionally for a brief time, but am always wearing one of the many pairs of earrings my husband gave me on special occasions.

I send hugs and prayers of strength to all who have lost their husbands.

lynnie61 · ‎04-28-2010

Thinking of all of you! Such sadness, and yes, grief is different for everyone. Please take care of yourselves. You are some strong ladies! My thoughts and prayers go out to each of you. Hugs!
(((❤️)))

roeroe1005 · ‎03-13-2010

My heart breaks for you ladies. Your world is completely turned upside down. It's heartbreaking.

When my cousin Joe passed away quite unexpectedly, he left behind his wife, daughter who was a freshman in college and son who was 12 years old. Danny's best friend was his dad. In addition, my aunt lost her son. Heartbreaking for everyone. Michele had just washed/dried his clothes and put them on his side of the bed. She did not touch those clothes for about 5 years. Took Donna to return to college about 4 years. Danny literally counted each day his dad was gone. Even though he now is married with a beautiful little girl, I bet he is still counting those days since his dad passed.

Doesn't matter if you are married 1 year or 60. If they pass unexpectedly or from illness, everything you thought you knew about your daily life is gone. Take as long as you need to mourn, grieve, cry - it's no one's business.

I hope those of you who want or need to be around people going thru what you are find widow/widower groups. Maybe thru local funeral homes? Maybe thru other churches (not necessarily your religion). That really helps to talk with people, when you are ready, going thru the same pain. After my fiance passed from diabetes complications, I was lucky to find a local group for young widows/widowers. I really needed it to help me understand, at that time, the worst part of my life.

You are all in my heart, as I also watched my dad go thru it after mom died. It never leaves you. I will keep you in my prayers.

spumoni99 · ‎02-16-2019

@lovesallanimals I am so sorry. I think everyone is on their own timeline, be gentle with yourself and do what makes you feel best.

My sister lost her husband almost three years ago, she was only 64. She is not the type to be on her own. Once she met the man she is together with now she had a right hand ring made out of the wedding/engagement ring.

She cried every day, I was glad she met someone she was very very sad and it was what she needed. I on the other hand would never want to date again if something happens to my husband first.

Sorry I am blabbering, please take care of yourself and the suggestion of going to a widow support group seems like a great idea.

To you and everyone else that lost a spouse I am so sorry. It doesn't matter how old we are it will still hurt the same.

ID2 · ‎06-25-2012

@lovesallanimals

Gosh I'm so sorry for your recent loss. I can only imagine how you feel. I'm so sad that you are so sad. Hopefully your grief finds its way into only lovely memories of your wonderful husband. God bless you.

"Pure Michigan"