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[SouthernBee]

Good Morning Y'all: The situation with my SIL is sad and stressful. I really feel sorry for her. I really try to limit my contact with her and do the best I can when she visits. However she also mentioned to us the other day that she wanted to come over once a week to play different board games and card games. We tried to stress that even though we have a variety of games prefer to play the game of Aggravation ( especially DH). She mentioned games like Rook and something else and we don't have the games and never played them. I tried to change the subject. Then before she left- DH agreed for her to come over Thursday afternoon. I know she will insist on playing some other card game and DH will tell us to play because he has things to do on the computer. I will be stuck entertaining her. I will suggest the exact opposite of what ever she wants to do. I will suggest that we do something in the kitchen to teach her how to bake the cake that she prefers for me to bake. So how long do you think this will be?😳😁🤗🤗🤗♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[Bri369]

Good Morning Preds and Friends!

[Bri369]

@SouthernBee 

It's not going to go well.  She must know she upsets you.  I would have a hard time feeling sorry for someone like that.  

It must be so stressful for you to deal with her.  

[cowboy sam]

@SouthernBee 

perhaps at last minute call her and tell her you have a headache and need a nap and need to cancel her coming over??

You bend over backwards trying to help her and does she follow your directions??

  uh no,its like she is delibertly  messing up your recipes as she is depending on you to feel sorry for her and will do/make things for her...er  maybe too lazy? or wants you to feel sorry for her🤬

Yep,she has you wrapped around her finger...

'"if "you do buy her a case of tea and a case of sugar  do you think she will then make hers  to  taste   like yours???  I doubt it.

lubs ya!🤗

[geezerette]

@SouthernBee 

It sounds like maybe your SIL is lonely.  I can understand why if she treats everyone like she does you.

But your feelings of sympathy for her are going to wear really thin if she's over every week.😩

Maybe your DH will be available to pay attention to her.🤞

[Yahooey]

@SouthernBee 

nuf' said

[Yahooey]

90 on tuesday - WHAT??????

ai es knot ready for it - who is??

[SouthernBee]

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@geezerette wrote:

@SouthernBee 

It sounds like maybe your SIL is lonely.  I can understand why if she treats everyone like she does you.

But your feelings of sympathy for her are going to wear really thin if she's over every week.?

Maybe your DH will be available to pay attention to her.?

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@geezerette :  She is lonely. She is extreme in her beliefs and doesn't have many friends and her family very dysfunctional and raised in a dysfunctional family. Got pregnant in high school and dropped out to get married. Very low income. But everyone makes different decisions in life. The best thing that DH decided for himself was joining the army and later technical school. DH didn't and doesn't dwell on the past.

DH made the decision to not give her money but at least once a month give her the extra groceries she prefers and needs. He treats her to lunch three times a week.

We talked last night . He will stay while she visits and let her select the games. We will not be purchasing any new games. She has done this in the past and didn't last long. About 10 years ago she wanted to get together more often and play card games and board games. We purchased games she preferred. Visits lasted only two weeks. I will keep the snacks simple like fresh fruit and dip. 🤗♥️🙏

[geezerette]

@SouthernBee 

Sounds like a plan!  Good that DH recognizes you shouldn't have to deal with her alone.  Hopefully her attention span will be short again.

Good luck!🤞

[cowboy sam]

dear preds and friends

Daughter called me midmorning to ask if i had had lunch yet and i hadn't, so she told me she was bring me food from Wendys!

She stayed for about 3 hours and then  she had a phone call from my grandaughter inviting her over for a cook out...too hot/humid for me so she asked if she could bring me something from the grill..asked for a cheeseburger later!

My neighbor and her dh trimmed branches off my tree in front yard after they did theirs.  Wow! it really made a difference taking lower limbs off  my tree.  I was so surprised to see the  trimming.

I was outside after my 4 block walk this morning trimming  er cutting/pulling weeds around my C/A unit next to my house.

But i couldn't walk good afterwards until i cooled down and rested in my house!

I was going to do laundry today but changed my mind will do it Tuesday.

luba ya!