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[SouthernBee]

@Yahooey : Hope that your brother can help with your microwave. Totally frustrating. Our tv in the den is 11 years old and every time the cable company has some issues- always afraid it's the 📺 tv.🙏🙏🙏🤗🤗🤗♥️♥️♥️

[SouthernBee]

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@Drythe wrote:

@Yahooey 

Appliances... they lull you into complacency... then BAM!

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@Drythe : Sad but totally agree.🤗♥️

[SouthernBee]

Good Morning Y'all: Friday went shopping with my two friends. We stopped at IHOP for breakfast. I was a little uncomfortable because the place was packed. The waitress was so busy she forgot my decaf coffee and friends had regular coffee. The waitress was other wise very good and friendly and I still gave her a good tip. Sometimes - we just need to consider everything that the wait staff is dealing with. 

We went to Joann's because one of the girls needed quilting supplies. Not my favorite place but stayed busy walking around the store and looking to get some much needed exercise.

The other friend- the widow was very vocal and against all my plans.She heard me and the other friend talking.The other friend had asked if I had received any more information from the contractor. I had to hold back my comments. She said that the whole interior of my house didn't need painting and just repair the fence. During the conversation she included that the investment in her house has paid off because the fair market value has increased from $240,000 to $315,000.  My fair market value had increased from $84,500 to $96,200 but built in 1963 and hers was built in 2007.I know that I live on the poor side of the city without being told. I know she would not go 10 years without painting her whole house or live with worn out carpet that has wrinkles in it. I have something painted when necessary but she has something painted when she gets tired of the color. I am happy for her and always trying to be supportive. The comments just hurts. She has a big family that is experience " handyman " and helps with painting and repairs and I have no one and painted my room when I was a teenager but no other experience. At this time in my life: I would spill a lot of paint and cause more damage.Other than her comments she is very good to me. Not many people are willing to provide transportation for a handicapped person that includes folding up a walker  etc. Sorry just needed to vent.

I was upset and worn out when I got home plus knowing more decisions needed to be made. I went to sleep very early. Spent Saturday doing more research.

I need to cook today and do laundry.🙏🤗🤗♥️♥️♥️☕️☕️☕️🥤🥤🥤🥤🥓🥓🙏🥓🙏

[geezerette]

@SouthernBee 

I don't "know" you well, but I think you underestimate your value.  You are a kind, generous, and loyal friend.❤️

Second, I'd like to tell you to tell the friend that is judging you to go jump in the lake!😡  But, I can sympathize with your dilemma.  I never used to be dependent on anyone for anything when my husband was alive.  Now I have to bite my tongue often because on occasion I need others for help.  

Your friend may be trying to make herself feel better by comparing your status with hers.  And it shows who is the bigger person when you remain silent about her shortcomings.  I suspect your other friends can see this too.

And it may very well be that your friend just doesn't realize how much her words hurt you.  As you say, she is kind enough to help you in other ways.  We all have people in our lives that we have to accept their bad points as well their good points.  But we don't have to like it!☺️

And isn't it nice that you have this place with all your loving Q friends to vent to without being judged?!😘

[geezerette]

[PamfromCT]

Hello Lovelies!

A special hello to the lovely @dooBdoo!  We all love you and miss you.  How are you doing?  Please let us know, as you are a  VIP here.  Sending hugs and love to you!

@SouthernBee, That “friend” would wear anyone out.  How dare she try to make our Bee feel badly?  Sounds like she has more than a few problems.  If you can, try to avoid people who try to make others feel bad or inferior.  Who cares what her house is worth?  Stuff is not bad.  We all need and like some stuff.   But at the end of the day...it is just stuff.

Sounds like you are on the right track with your house plans.  Our homes are little nests, our safe places.  We are homebodies ourselves.  Of course, the one in charge is our little Winston, the kissing kitty.  We just pay the bills.

Lubs to all!

[cowboy sam]

@SouthernBee 

i agree with what @geezerette @PamfromCT  said.

I try to be careful with my words as once spoken sometimes can be hurtful  and once said can't be taken back!

We can try to forgive the person but always remember hurtful words....and in time hope  they fade.

Sometimes like your friend speaks before thinking if she would hurt you or not.!

 Ignore her hurtful words and don't respond by answering her!

Only you can decide if you want her to be your friend or not.But she was wrong to talk to you like that 😡

lubs you!

[cowboy sam]

@Yahooey 

A suggestion...have you tried unplugging your microwave for a while then replug it in to see if it reset itself?

lubs ya!

[cowboy sam]

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lubs ya!

[Yahooey]

@SouthernBee 

i'm sorry ur friend hurt ur feelings....

sometimes peeps have no filter and have no idea how much the words hurt

she could have said - ur home is fine inside

only the fence and the interior BR needs repairs

is this the friend that said - BR fitters are #$^# -  gotta be the same person

but her good qualities as u mentioned is helping u with ur walker for transportation

we confuse hurtful words as being honest.... there is always a way to express

that is why we have a vast vocabulary... choose ur words wisely