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[FlowershopGirl]

Well-thought post DooBdoo and it wasn't a "rant" to me, just well said.  I sure hope you feel better soon, I know those days and they're hard.  Take care, feel better.

Pam, I've been thinking of adopting another cat since mine is gone and the Maine Coon was recommended to me because they are said to be very mellow and easy going.  Enjoy yoyr kitty!!

[PamfromCT]

Hi FlowershopGirl, I do hope you will get a Maine Coon. It's said they are cats who act like dogs. Not the slightest bit aloof, and ours greets us at the door when we're out and return home. Lily tends to follow us around the house. She is loving and affectionate. Just prepare to deal with a kitty with long hair and very sharp claws in their big mitts. She also loves water, and will plunk herself down by her big water bowl, dip her paws in the water, and clean her "fur bib" with the water. She is such a joy, and we have created one very spoiled puddycat.

[kittymomNC]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

K, you are probably right but I didn't know how else to show what happens in threads with good discussions that deteriate into personal arguments. Some posters are continually playing the victim, whining, and nothing, no apology,  will pacify them.

I meant no offence to you. I don't blame you for falling Into the trap.

I'm so sorry, I just noticed that I quoted the post I meant but also your response which I hadn't meant to quote. 

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I just saw your edit, and I do appreciate it.  There may have been some confusion in how the posts were quoted.

This all started from my original post about people not having the "enjoyment" of reading all the cruel and hurtful things that have been said here.  If the responding poster had just come right out and said, "you said this to me several months ago....", I could have addressed it in one post and it would have been over.  But she chose to respond by posting an emoticon I supposedly posted to her... how on earth could I know what she was referring to?  But she was continuing the derogatory post about me by making it "mysterious"... and what other posters could have taken away from that (and still can) was just a general feeling that maybe kittymom is not who she seems to be.  I requested further clarification, but then decided to just end it... I don't like those kinds of confrontations.  That's why I got upset when you brought it up again.  But it does illustrate what can happen when someone feels that they have to defend themselves... I will be more careful in the future not to "fall into that trap" as you stated.  

[Say Nay]

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@kittymomNC wrote:

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@occasionalrain wrote:

K, you are probably right but I didn't know how else to show what happens in threads with good discussions that deteriate into personal arguments. Some posters are continually playing the victim, whining, and nothing, no apology,  will pacify them.

I meant no offence to you. I don't blame you for falling Into the trap.

I'm so sorry, I just noticed that I quoted the post I meant but also your response which I hadn't meant to quote. 

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I just saw your edit, and I do appreciate it.  There may have been some confusion in how the posts were quoted.

This all started from my original post about people not having the "enjoyment" of reading all the cruel and hurtful things that have been said here.  If the responding poster had just come right out and said, "you said this to me several months ago....", I could have addressed it in one post and it would have been over.  But she chose to respond by posting an emoticon I supposedly posted to her... how on earth could I know what she was referring to?  But she was continuing the derogatory post about me by making it "mysterious"... and what other posters could have taken away from that (and still can) was just a general feeling that maybe kittymom is not who she seems to be.  I requested further clarification, but then decided to just end it... I don't like those kinds of confrontations.  That's why I got upset when you brought it up again.  But it does illustrate what can happen when someone feels that they have to defend themselves... I will be more careful in the future not to "fall into that trap" as you stated.  

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I thought in your prior post to me that you were done. Apparently not. Good grief. 

[just4me]

I think when people give what the poster wants (attention), it makes him/her continue to post like a snot.  I ignore the nastiness- or at least post something nice instead.

[newziesuzie]

Smaug and Kittymom you're both posters I've learned from
and you have a lot to contribute so this isnt a bash but imho it sounds
like you could take this to another thread and maybe work things
out for a truce or something and maybe not take this thread down?

[NycVixen]

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@orangegarnet wrote:

Thank you, nunya, like I said, I've forgiven but I won't forget.  I learned a lesson that day, don't come on here with a hurting heart and try to find some consolation. 

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Indeed. I also got burned early on. Never will forget. It was and still is a regular poster. The topic was about not telling spouses about purchases and that poster told me that my husband is cheating on me. Unacceptable and vicious. Unwarranted attack of an evil nature....

[newziesuzie]

Lol Nonethanks
we all have our "snotty" days.😈😇😈

[Say Nay]

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@newziesuzie wrote:


Smaug and Kittymom you're both posters I've learned from
and you have a lot to contribute so this isnt a bash but imho it sounds
like you could take this to another thread and maybe work things
out for a truce or something and maybe not take this thread down?

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No worries newziesuzie. I was surprised it was still going on. Thanks for saying something. I do appreciate it. And thanks for the kind words. 

[newziesuzie]

You're welcome Smaug, thanks for "getting" my post as that I wanted to take a chance at a positive suggestion.

I learned so much from you especially about Ebola and was impressed to read about your history and experiences. I'm glad you're back and hope you stay!

Have a nice day!👍