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[hckynutjohn]

"Would you have paid him"?

@Biftu 

No!

hckynut 🇺🇸

[LdyBugz]

@Biftu 

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Orginally, I would say no, but in thinking about it, I would offer 5.00 and say, I appreciate it and just want to show it, but In the future, I can't afford it.  If I have a bigger job, then I will let you know, but I have to put it in my budget when I can afford it. Thank you for thinking of me. Showing good faith and keeping the friendship.

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I agree with @qvcaddition.  This approach would let the neighbor know that you do appreciate his efforts but can only hire him when your budget allows.  Otherwise, he might start doing other unsolicited chores and expect payment.  It's in everyone's best interest to set boundaries and expectations now to avoid awkward situations going forward.

[LizzieInSRQ]

@qvcaddition from my perspective, you didnt ask him to do any of this. Id leave at a thank you. No way would i pay a grown man to do something he already did without asking.

[Zhills]

If it was something that really benefitted me, yes, I would pay him.  It would be him or someone else. 

If not to your benefit....no!

He should have asked about the job first!

[kaydee50]

No, I would not have paid him.  He's in his 40s???  Maybe once a year give him a gift card but a sincere "thank you, it wasn't necessary for you to do that" would be my response.

[jackthebear]

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@LizzieInSRQ wrote:

@qvcaddition from my perspective, you didnt ask him to do any of this. Id leave at a thank you. No way would i pay a grown man to do something he already did without asking.

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kind of a slippery slope if you ask me

 you didn't ask and he assumed

[LizzieInSRQ]

If he is desparate for money, he still has no business doing something without a discussion/permission/agreement.

This is not much better than the people in the big city who run up to your car, clean your windsheild and demand to be paid. 

[Biftu]

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@qvcaddition wrote:

@Biftu 

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@Biftu wrote:

My neighbor's son (he's in his 40s) knocked on my door to tell me he has cleaned up both our front lawns from pinecone like things that fall from his tree but branches hang over my property. I thanked him and an hour later he said his trash barrel was filled and can he use mine.  Sure I said.  He came back again and told me his father used to pay him 10 cents for every pincone he picked. I laughed and said he had a good thing going.  Back again to tell me my trash bin was heavy and to call him on trash day and he will move it to the front for me.  I felt like he wanted me to pay him.  These pinecones don't bother me in the winter and I did not ask him to do this, although I appreciate he did it.

He has done small outdoor chores for me in the past which I asked for his help and I paid him.  He took on this task on his own.  Being retired I try to only pay for projects I can't do on myself.  Would you have paid him?

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Orginally, I would say no, but in thinking about it, I would offer 5.00 and say, I appreciate it and just want to show it, but In the future, I can't afford it.  If I have a bigger job, then I will let you know, but I have to put it in my budget when I can afford it. Thank you for thinking of me. Showing good faith and keeping the friendship.

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I understand, but giving a grown man $5 doesn't cut it.

[elated]

He is a 40 year old man picking up pine cones in your yard. He said his dad pays him $.10 for each pine cone..He sounds very strange and I would want to keep my distance. I would have thanked him and told him to please refrain in the future. If I need help, I will ask a family member. 

[mspatmac]

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@qvcaddition wrote:

@Biftu 

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@Biftu wrote:

My neighbor's son (he's in his 40s) knocked on my door to tell me he has cleaned up both our front lawns from pinecone like things that fall from his tree but branches hang over my property. I thanked him and an hour later he said his trash barrel was filled and can he use mine.  Sure I said.  He came back again and told me his father used to pay him 10 cents for every pincone he picked. I laughed and said he had a good thing going.  Back again to tell me my trash bin was heavy and to call him on trash day and he will move it to the front for me.  I felt like he wanted me to pay him.  These pinecones don't bother me in the winter and I did not ask him to do this, although I appreciate he did it.

He has done small outdoor chores for me in the past which I asked for his help and I paid him.  He took on this task on his own.  Being retired I try to only pay for projects I can't do on myself.  Would you have paid him?

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Orginally, I would say no, but in thinking about it, I would offer 5.00 and say, I appreciate it and just want to show it, but In the future, I can't afford it.  If I have a bigger job, then I will let you know, but I have to put it in my budget when I can afford it. Thank you for thinking of me. Showing good faith and keeping the friendship.

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@qvcaddition 

@Biftu 

Not knowing the son's circumstance I agree with @qvcaddition   $5 seems reasonable and kind.  and explaining you only want his help when you ask is important.  Wish I had someone that I could ask to do small jobs when needed.