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[dooBdoo]

On 10/29/2014 Preds said:

On 10/29/2014 focksie said:

Wow.

I never realized just how passive-aggressive I am. It's one thing to know what it means in your head...it's another thing to read about it here.

I better go work on myself.

You appear to be fine just the way you are. Actually, we all could probably work on ourselves once in a while.

I agree, Preds.

[QueenDanceALot]

On 10/29/2014 focksie said:

Wow.

I never realized just how passive-aggressive I am. It's one thing to know what it means in your head...it's another thing to read about it here.

I better go work on myself.

I have been told that my passive-aggressiveness is part of my overwhelming charm.

[Mj12]

On 10/29/2014 nunya said:

But I'd never thank someone for posting on MY thread. That's silly.

Or the ""Thank you for stopping by today!""

As if!

[Preds]

Don't men consider all woman Passive-Aggressive?

[dooBdoo]

On 10/29/2014 KittyLouWhoToo said:

On 10/29/2014 focksie said:

Wow.

I never realized just how passive-aggressive I am. It's one thing to know what it means in your head...it's another thing to read about it here.

I better go work on myself.

I have been told that my passive-aggressiveness is part of my overwhelming charm.

Did they also say, "Bless your heart"?

[tansy]

On 10/29/2014 Preds said:

Don't men consider all woman Passive-Aggressive?

And overly-sensitive!

[Jig Saw]

On 10/29/2014 Preds said:

Don't men consider all woman Passive-Aggressive?

My husband says I am quite forward in my demands.

[Preds]

On 10/29/2014 Jig Saw said:

On 10/29/2014 Preds said:

Don't men consider all woman Passive-Aggressive?

My husband says I am quite forward in my demands.

Good girl!

[dooBdoo]

On 10/29/2014 baddest_dog said:

On 10/29/2014 dooBdoo said:

On 10/29/2014 baddest_dog said:

happens every day around here. I'd rather get all my arrows in the front. You don't like my POV, or me for that matter, just say so. Argue the point, not the person.

But some people can't be honest enough to do that because well, they have a reputation to live up to on here so they remain "sweet" in other people's eyes.

Recent sparring match proved that to me. When points could not be made with backup sources and reliable data, resort to insults and getting the last word in.

Like this: State POV in hostile way, the get in last word by saying Bye sweetie, have a nice evening. That to me is P/A.

Better to say: state POV, I'm ending this now, go choke on it. Hostile? Yes, but at least it's straightforward and to the point.

baddest_dog, I think I understand what you mean, and I prefer people being open, direct, honest, but I'm not a fan of so-called "brutal honesty" (there were some interesting threads about that term, by the way, and I think far too many relish the brutality more than the honesty). However, regarding the area I placed in bold, I think there's a place between the two. We can be direct and honest and still be respectful and civil.

uh huh. Well, you do know that my stating "choke on it" was not meant to be taken literally, don't you? I often use words that are more to explain the "gist" of something rather than literally. But, I would rather have honesty any day over the hidden meanings and snarky remarks. I have a high IQ, but like Sheldon Cooper on BBT, I don't even get some of the sarcasm and snark that is posted on here. I know they are insults, but not everyone has that kind of cleverness. That's why I say just say what you mean and mean what you say. At least then I can either offer a rebuttal or leave.

Ah! Gotcha. Now I understand better.

To add: Overall, posting here we have to cope with the limitations of the written word, without vocal inflections, facial expressions, body language, etc. Gets to be a sticky wicket sometimes.

[reese2]

I think you can diffuse a situation quite quickly and effectively if you answer nicely to someone who is clearly spoiling for a fight. Is it sincere? Of course not, but does that poster expect it at that point? Probably not. A little well-placed humor can help.

There wouldn't be an old adage about catching more flies with honey than vinegar if it weren't true.

If that's passive aggressive, I'm guilty.