Re: Ordering a wedding dress from Amazon

Dominosmom · ‎07-17-2010

She is an only child...it figures

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

When I was married the first time I was going to have my Mother's and grandmother's dream wedding.My Mom was married in the middle of WW11 and she got married in a suit at the magistrate, my Grandma had eloped.My wedding was all for them! They wanted a big ball gown so I let them pick it.I did like it though.Anyway - 3 weeks before our wedding the church had a bad fire.We could not have the wedding in the sanctuary but the sunday school chapel was unharmed so we had to get married in there. It was tiny.We put in as many chairs as possible which made the aisle only 18" wide. My dress would not fit.I went to the bridal shop and, since my dress was not altered and was a size 6 they took it back and found me a dress I could wear, but I really disliked it.Had to take it anyway. Still hate the pictures from my wedding! However, the marriage was good and my Mom & Grandma were happy.

sol_luna · ‎01-25-2018

@jackthebearwrote:
@SXMGirlwrote:
@jackthebear, I see wedding dresses for sale online everywhere and all of the time, most at extremely reasonable prices. I guess that I am old-fashioned, but, unless it is because of divorce, I do not understand selling a wedding dress. Just my opinion.

why not, it's not as though you are going to wear it again. will end up being tossed, might as well get some money from it and someone else can enjoy it.

case in point

my Brother in law has 2 in his attic his mothers and his wife's, what are they going to do with them?

Regardless of whether she will wear it again makes NO difference. And you don't know if the wedding gown will be tossed. She OBVIOUSLY has a reason for keeping it.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@Carmiewrote:
To the posters who think that expensive weddings mostly end up in divorce, that is just crazy talk.

Many families have traditions. these traditions are handed down through the generations. My wedding was planned right after my baptism party which was planned as soon as my mother learned she was pregnant.

i had a formal after six ceremony and over 500 people in attendance. My parents entertained people for three days, as is the custom in my Italian family. Friday, Saturday and Sunday. My DH and I were not even there on Sunday, but about 100 people were.

My family didn’t go into debt. They paid cash for everything. I will be celebrating my 45 wedding anniversary in July and my nephew is getting married on my anniversary date.

A marriage can go sour no matter what type of ceremony or reception you have. It is not a deciding factor.

I agree. The size or expense of a wedding has absolutely nothing to do with the success of the marriage. I see that posted here time and time again. Planning a big wedding doesn't mean the couple is not also focused on their love for each other and their future life together.

In my area (and in my family) most of us had large, extravagant weddings, which were wonderful and created memories to last a lifetime - and beyond. They also resulted in a very good track record of marriages enduring for many, many decades.

I have attended weddings of all sizes and budgets - from a very casual pool party in a backyard to a garden wedding with only 10 people in attendance, and all the way up to a 4-day extravaganza in Europe. Absolutely, without a doubt, the low-key weddings did not end up with longer and happier marriages.

Everyone should have the kind of wedding they want. My wedding was perfect - exactly what I wanted, and no one went into any debt to pay for it. I have no problem with smaller, less expensive weddings, and have been to many that were lovely, but we made a different choice. That doesn't mean we were shallow or not in love or not committed to each other in every way.

Weddings are a very personal thing, and it's unfair to judge people for the kind of wedding they choose to have. Not to mention ridiculous to say that expensive weddings are doomed to failure, and less expensive ones will lead to long and happy marriages. That is absolutely not true.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@patbzwrote:
I believe I read that even Costco has trunk shows of wedding gowns. One of the prettiest gowns for a wedding I attended was actually a heavy white lace evening gown with long sleeves. It was purchased in the evening wear dept of a major department store; when you add "wedding" to the title of a dress the price sky rockets.

My son is engaged, and my future DIL wants a simple wedding because she doesn't like a lot of attention. One of the things we're planning to do is look for gowns that are white, but not necessarily "wedding". It doesn't need to be labeled "wedding gown" in order to be both beautiful and appropriate for a wedding. Especially for women with their own style who don't necessarily want to look like a cookie-cutter bride.

The same goes for MOB dresses. I will buy something I like, and that I think is suitable. I have no intention of paying more just because it's in a bridal shop or is labeled "MOB". What I wear will be a MOB dress because I'll be wearing it, no matter whether it's labeled that way or not!

As for ordering online, I'm not sure I would do it because I'm too much of a worrier and would feel better having actually felt and tried on dresses. But I'm sure there are beautiful, well-made dresses available online. It's like anything else - some things will be cheaply-made and others will be well-made. My only advice to anyone considering doing this is to allow a LOT of time, just in case.

Katcat1 · ‎07-21-2011

@happycat DON'T order a wedding dress online. I know someone that did and it was a disaster. Rather, go to David's bridal as they have a big sale right now. JCrew also sells dresses but I don't remember the prices.

kindness is strength

GCR18 · ‎07-03-2013

I probably wouldn't order a wedding dress online because with my luck, it would have to be exchanged. The process would stress me out. LOL.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

Why not? Marriages don't last long these days.

Buy 10 dresses for $1000, and change every 30 minutes during the wedding.

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

@Katcat1, I've been married what seems like forever. I did think it would be funny (and still do) to order it and be wearing it when hubby got home from work. I probably wont do that though.
I just found it almost unbelievable that one could be purchased for so little money. I do seem to learn something new everyday. I'm not surprised it ended in disaster for the person you knew.

My son is getting married in the fall. My future daughter in law tried on several dresses before making her decision. I was there for a big part of it. I can't imagaine ordering one online without trying it on first.

I'm old and kind of fluffy though.