Community Chat

[hckynutjohn]

Like others here I have lost loved ones. Should the love I had for them, and they for me, change how i feel about life? Holidays or just any day of the week, I know they would want me to continue to see joy and happiness throughout the year.

Of course I remember sadly "what used to be", those are called my previous memories. As everyone adds years to their lives, family members/spouses, and our best friends are no longer a part of our lives.

There is 1 specific day that brought sad memories to me for many decades. I changed that sad day into a happy day. It was February 14, 2002, the planned wedding to my beloved wife. Prior to that day!

My life now is looking for another tomorrow and still being able to live, what I consider, my type of life. I cannot change the past or predict the future, so my focus is on the present and the possibility of a tomorrow.

I too will be almost alone on both upcoming holidays. My wife left yesterday and is off Pet Sitting in another city until January 5, 2022. However, our 4 furry kids are still all the company I need for happy holidays.

hckynut 

[spent2much]

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[Nancy Drew]

I lost my parents this summer, they died with in 36 hours of each other. My dad especially  loved Christmas. I choose to be happy for 60 years of them on earth. I cherish the memories and photos and slides and videos. He documented everything. I focus on the small moments: the smell of a candy cane, the house lights in the neighborhood, the fur babies, the ORIGINAL story, it's all good. I won't be here forever so Iam not wasting God's gift of today. Now of course this is all easier said than done but I just refocus. And refocus.

[Jordan2]

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@Nancy Drew wrote:

I lost my parents this summer, they died with in 36 hours of each other. My dad especially  loved Christmas. I choose to be happy for 60 years of them on earth. I cherish the memories and photos and slides and videos. He documented everything. I focus on the small moments: the smell of a candy cane, the house lights in the neighborhood, the fur babies, the ORIGINAL story, it's all good. I won't be here forever so Iam not wasting God's gift of today. Now of course this is all easier said than done but I just refocus. And refocus.

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@Nancy Drew I'm so sorry for the loss of your parents, it must have been very difficult for you losing both of them at the same time. You have a wonderful attitude, I wish you the very best. 

[lynnie61]

@Jordan2   Hi.  I was thinking of you the other day.  I know your mom passed and it would be difficult.  It’s so hard losing a loved one.  Please take care.  Come here and post, many are still here on the holiday.  Please treasure your memories of past holidays.  No one can take them away from you.  

@Nancy Drew @goldensrbest   @spent2much @1Snickers .  I’m so sorry for your losses.  I know holiday time is a struggle for many.  Thinking of all of you.  I lost my mom 21 years ago now, but I now smile and laugh at our past holiday memories.  I know it wasn’t always like that for me.  I really struggled the first few years.  Take care.  

[Jordan2]

@lynnie61 it's so kind of you to be thinking about me, I appreciate more than I can say. My plans for Christmas Day is to do some binge watching ( unless you're visiting with friends and family there isn't anything to do), I'll definitely be checking out the boards. I wish you a very Happy Holiday and a happy and healthy New Year.

[Jordan2]

So, this is finally the end of the holiday season. I want to be hopeful for the new year, but I just don't know. I always miss my mom on New Year's Eve. I would tuck her into bed at 9:00, she would wish me a Happy New Year and say I wish good things for you in the new year. My mom was a glass full kind of gal who always had a smile on her face. I can't tell you how many people tell me my mother was the nicest, sweetest woman, I was blessed to have her as my mom. I'm sitting here crying and missing her, I know it's not what she would want for me but I can't help it. I wish everyone on these boards a healthy and happy New Year and hope 2022 is better than 2021 was.

[Gorgf]

@Jordan2  You and your Mother must have had a very special bond. It sounds like she was a person that  many others also appreciated. How nice you could help care for her and she was able to communicate such warmth and affection with such sweet words. You both were lucky to have each other and pleasant memories. Thank you for sharing.