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Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

The holiday season isn't a happy time for me. Thanksgiving is over, I just have to get through Christmas and New Years.

Porcelain · ‎02-19-2014

@Jordan2 wrote:
The holiday season isn't a happy time for me. Thanksgiving is over, I just have to get through Christmas and New Years.

I hear you. I'm sorry you have to deal with this.

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1Snickers · ‎03-19-2016

@Jordan2 Holidays are a hard time for some people. I guess when everyone else is celebrating if we are alone it can be depressing. It was hard for me alone last year.

I miss my parents and husband but have those memories. I decorate for myself because I enjoy it. This year was harder next year I'll do less!
I have friends who get depressed especially at Christmas. I understand not being happy when others are.
But you made it through Thanksgiving and you can make it through Christmas and New Years. They are just another day and will pass.

You are not alone!
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Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@1Snickers wrote:
@Jordan2 Holidays are a hard time for some people. I guess when everyone else is celebrating if we are alone it can be depressing. It was hard for me alone last year.
I miss my parents and husband but have those memories. I decorate for myself because I enjoy it. This year was harder next year I'll do less!
I have friends who get depressed especially at Christmas. I understand not being happy when others are.
But you made it through Thanksgiving and you can make it through Christmas and New Years. They are just another day and will pass.
You are not alone!
😒 ☹️ 🥺 🥲 😌🙂

@1Snickers I don't begrudge people who love the holiday season and really are into it, that isn't my experience. My sister always goes to her sister-in-law with her family for Thanksgiving and I do Thanksgiving alone.

gabstoomuch · ‎03-16-2010

Same. This is the time of year I just get through every day looking forward for December 26th.

I don't get depressed. I just don't think the holidays are presented on TV commercials as realistically as they really are. I don't know any couples that run out the front door in their PJ's to two brand new sparkling cars with big red bows on them The reason for the holiday season was lost a long time ago imo.

So many broken families, and stressed out kids because they have to go wherever a court deems they go, even if it is not where they should be.

This year will be especially painful for those who lost a loved one to illness the past two years. This is the first year of people getting together so it will intensify the loss for some (many) families

I always prepare early in November by reminding myself to be gentle on myself during the holidays. I know I hate them. I know many people love the holidays. I wish I was one of them but I am not. I just plod through each day until it is over.

Although, If you watch QVC you can find humor listening to the hosts babbling on about what an amazing gift this would be for your friend or your uncle, or even the mailman! (and it is an item that costs $350.00). They truly make me laugh sometimes.

Only have 1 month to go! Another season will be done. New Year's Eve doesn't bother me, I enjoy the NYE events on TV, all snuggled up in my blanket, thankful I have a whole year to not worry about it again.

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

I have tried to live with this since 1998, my son died, and 2013 my husband, i always dread this time of year,use to be my favorite time of year,i absolutely miss how it was.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

Jordan2 · ‎03-16-2010

@goldensrbest wrote:
I have tried to live with this since 1998, my son died, and 2013 my husband, i always dread this time of year,use to be my favorite time of year,i absolutely miss how it was.

@goldensrbest I'm so sorry for your loss, take care of yourself.

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

@Jordan2 wrote:
The holiday season isn't a happy time for me. Thanksgiving is over, I just have to get through Christmas and New Years.

I have always liked Thanksgiving but dread Christmas. Christmas is just a sad time for me. I'd love to be able to skip from Black Friday to New Year's Day.

PINKdogWOOD · ‎05-13-2010

@goldensrbest Holidays used to be fun for my family too but then family members chose to drop out of the family and took (her) family with her. This would be my older sister. No one could figure out what happened to her but her clan either followed her or were told by her to not be nice anymore. We were all left just shaking our heads as to what might have happened. She absolutely broke my Dad's heart. It all seemed to not bother my mother.

Then my dear Dad died a week before Christmas 2005. The holiday season was never the same again.

Personally, I hate the holidays. I hate that the public if you will thinks it's all about buying stuff for others. I'm not into spending money on others, buying stuff for others. This is not what the holidays was to my Dad. All he wanted was all of us with him, enjoying each others' company, laughing together, catching up, sharing great meals together.

It's dark and dreary outside, cold this time of year. I look forward to the Winter Solstice when the days begin again to get longer with more light outside and in our lives. Give me the first day of SPRING when everything comes back to life and new beginnings start again.

1Snickers · ‎03-19-2016

@goldensrbest And all: I love Christmas, the decorating (my house is finished and two trees!)

This December 22 marks the 17the year since my husband passed away. His loyal Jack Russell saw my son and me through Christmas and passed on New Years Eve.
I buried my dog's ashes with my husband at hIs request. I missed them so much!
I found a Jack Russell puppy the Spring after my husband passed. Krypto lived 16 years. He trained himself to be a hearing dog for me, he also trained Snickers to help me too.
It would be so lonely without a dog or pet.
I have a son and granddaughter nearby so see them often, but Thanksgiving and Christmas will never be the same.
My house glows with battery candles (and husband can't complain I'm wasting money!) I don't have to cook unless I want to. I go on long walks with my dog and lunches with friends. I do Tai Chi daily for balance and stress relief. I count my blessings.
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