Re: OT High School Graduation gift amount?

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

I think $50 makes sense. My best friend's son just graduated from high school. We are very close to him. We went to his party, and we gave him $50. One of DH's nephews graduated last year - we gave $100.00. DS just graduated 3 years ago. The only gift above $50 he received from family was $100 from two of his 3 aunts (one single) on DH's side. The other one gave him a card. (No relatives left on my side.). So that's why I think $50 is a generous gift!

walkingal · ‎03-09-2010

$50 sounds good to me. My niece just graduated from high school. I wasn't invited to her graduation, but she sent me an announcement. I mailed her a check for $50. I thought that was sufficient under the circumstances -- I never hear from her parents and rarely from her. Ultimately, you should give whatever is best for you.

SXMGirl · ‎07-07-2010

$50 is more than enough.

The next time that I hear salt and ice together, it better be in a margarita!

K9buddy · ‎03-09-2010

$50 is fine. Nobody told them they had to spend a fortune on the affair. It's something they chose to do and you shouldn't have to help them pay for it.

GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

This is not a close family member. I would do $50 if it isn't a hardship. Otherwise give what you can.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)

It's the new math. Some of us just like to give gifts and we do believe that a bigger, more expensive party calls for a bigger present.

scotnovel · ‎12-31-2013

@AKgirl2 wrote:
@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)
This was back in 70's, but my dad would always say you've got to at least cover your dinner(s) plus the gift...just how we rolled, and I do the same

I'm in mid 60's and I've never heard of that either. If the people hosting the party can't afford to cover the cost of the party then they should change their plans. In my book, guests are in no way obligated to pay for their attendance at a family (or other) get together.

scotnovel · ‎12-31-2013

@chrystaltree wrote:
@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)

It's the new math. Some of us just like to give gifts and we do believe that a bigger, more expensive party calls for a bigger present.

A bigger more expensive party just means the hosts have money to burn or no common sense. In either case, a guest is not obligated to help them cover the cost of that party.

muttmom · ‎11-28-2012

It doesn't matter whether the party is an expensive affair or a backyard picnic. Bottom line is it is a graduation party for a cousin's child. I think $50 is fine.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@scotnovel wrote:
@chrystaltree wrote:
@missy1 wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
I think your "gift" should cover both your meals, and the graduation gift...thinking at least $100...

I have never heard of the "cover your meals" until I started posting here, way back when.
Crazy talk. (not you, just the idea)

It's the new math. Some of us just like to give gifts and we do believe that a bigger, more expensive party calls for a bigger present.
A bigger more expensive party just means the hosts have money to burn or no common sense. In either case, a guest is not obligated to help them cover the cost of that party.

Who said anything about obligated? Did you miss the part where I said "we do believe". That means that we feel that way; others can do as they please.