Community Chat

[Laura14]

I don't think they had a choice with the public records acts usually on the books. They usually have to be made public upon demand which is why the family probably dropped the lawsuit. It was an expensive, hopeless cause.

I find it interesting that most here took her note as a negative. I think it could very well have been an attempt to protect a daughter who has a lot of issues of her own as well.

A positive sentiment scribbled in an unclear manner during a desperate mental health crisis. I hope Wy keeps that thought and only that thought of her mom trying to protect her until the end.

To be honest, I'm not looking forward to that day in my life either and it might be an incredible gift, depending on the relationship, to have permission from the deceased not to attend the final affair and pay your respects elsewhere. 

[TurnerGal]

Clearly Naomi was mentally sick at the end.  As other's have said,  why would she shoot herself for one daughter to find and leave that mean note for Wynona?  I had wondered when it all happened if she felt she was being pushed to go out on the last tour.  I think Wynona is popular enough she would have done well by herself and didn't need Naomi on the Tour. If you watch their last song they performed maybe a week before the suicide Naomi looked like she was really drugged and out of it.   As others noted Naomi must have had demons that she coudn't beat.  She had access to the best medical care around.  My thoughts are with her daughter and hopefully they can somehow move forward from all of this.

[Trailrun23]

I think it is terrible to make any of this family's private struggles open to the public. We don't have the right to know any of this, imo. It is clear Naomi was in a serious state of emotional turmoil, so her note was written in that state of mine. I wouldn't take anything written by someone in her state of crisis too seriously.  I hope Wynona understands this or is surrounded by those who can reassure her. Losing your mother is pure heartache. Dealing with something else like this just makes the heartache worse.

[RedTop]

I feel sure Wynonna knew her mother well enough to know the note was written at a very bad time, and not by the mother she loved.  

Those words are always going to be there, but I would expect the most hurt for all of this family is the fact nothing about this tragedy has stayed private.  

[MoJoV]

I guess nothing can be kept private about celebrity lives and deaths.  What a sad family, money and fame don't buy happiness.  Trite but true.

[Free2be]

I don't "follow" this family but hope her survivors find peace and resolve to understand as best they can so they may live their lives as emotionally healthy as possible.  The dead don't have any rightst to take that away.

[shoekitty]

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@golding76 wrote:

Why would a mother inflict a final, cruel blow on her child in that manner?  There must be a history behind it, but still...

Someone had to be the adult in their relationship, and I think there may not have been one.  

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Shoekitty said, I am sure it was because it was Naomi who was mentally ill.  That is just a pain no normal person would inflict on anyone, especially their child. Unless there was real abuse...and I myself am certain their wasn't. I have a mentally I'll brother, and sometimes they can be delusional, and something pops up you cannot understand where it came from. You on,y know who is saying it.  Sometimes something my brother says is fpsomething that happened 50 years ago, and to him he obsesses on that today as if it justbhappened. I know him so well, I have to piece things together and know what he is thinking.. I am sad for Winona. That would be soul wrenching. If this is all true. Why would they put that crud online. I for one would never look at that stuff

[AuntG]

Naomi obviously she cared very little about her family considering what they have been put through.

[Lucky Charm]

I know I've seen Naomi open up about her severe depression and her suicidal thoughts for quite a while.  And she and Wy had talked openly on television about the wedge there was between them sometime.

Watching Larry Strickland, Naomi's husband of many years say he wasn't thinking she would do this, really surprised me.  I've seen it said that he had to hide guns from her.

Looking back, he said she wanted to just lay on the couch and he'd tell her you've got to get up.  You've got to get well.....You've got this tour coming up.....

Now he wishes he wasn't so hard on her, was more understanding, more kind and loving and held her more.

Experts say that the visuals (pictures) of the blood on the bed, the gun, the publicity--all of it, is not good for vunerable people who are on the edge like Naomi was.  It was a disservice for those who are in deep depression and contemplating suicide--almost as if it glamorizes it.

She was in such a deep dark place that most of us cannot comprehend.  I know I can't.

[GoneButNotForgotten]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

That's a sign of Naomi's mental illness. She had a long history of struggling mentally. A sick woman, in deep pain decided to hurt her own daughter in her final moments. I think Naomi understands that.

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You are completely ignorant of what happened.were you there when she killed herself? during the aftermath?