Neighbor stole my cookies - Page 3

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

My mother had dementia. They can do all sort of things, even in the early stages. They can become someone you don't even know

In the spirit of the holidays , compassion toward others ,is what it is all about

Pearlee · ‎06-11-2011

@Marp wrote:
If she would take the cookies and essentially sneak out I would be questioning what she is actually doing with the money she is collecting.

That's exactly my thought that I posted above.

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

@Pearlee wrote:
@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
So, people don't feel compassion for those with dementia?

Wow.

That's very, very sad.

There by the grace of G-d goes you, a loved one, and I.

Why assume the worst of this woman?

IF she has dementia, then she deserves compassion, not vilification and condemnation.

@Plaid Pants2 No need for the attitude of condemnation toward your fellow posters. You are so harsh leaping to your judgment of them. The OP doesn't know that this woman has dementia - she "can't help but wonder" if she does. So no, I don't know that she has dementia and therefore feel no compassion for a thief. You certainly read a lot into people's posts and think the worst of your fellow posters. Why not give them the benefit of the doubt - show some compassion yourself before leaping to conclusions about posts..

And why jump to conclusions and assume the worst about the neighbor lady?

Why not give her the benefit of the doubt that she just might have deminished mental capabilities?

Afterall, it is the holiday season.

You know, good will towards our fellow man, and all that stuff?

It's one thing to say it, but it's entirely different to actually do it.

Havarti · ‎03-08-2014

I would ask her if she enjoyed the cookies and see how she responds. It at least lets her know you are aware she took them, yet you are not doing so in an accusatory way…just in case she thought you mean them for her. See if she acknowledges it, acts guilty, thanks you, makes up some story…you can learn more about her character in how she handles that question. It is good to know who you can & cannot trust before you let them back into your home and this should help you sort out whether this person you thought you could trust is really a thief or if something else is behind her actions.

Snarky responders need not reply. Move along and share your views elsewhere.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
@Pearlee wrote:
@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
So, people don't feel compassion for those with dementia?

Wow.

That's very, very sad.

There by the grace of G-d goes you, a loved one, and I.

Why assume the worst of this woman?

IF she has dementia, then she deserves compassion, not vilification and condemnation.

@Plaid Pants2 No need for the attitude of condemnation toward your fellow posters. You are so harsh leaping to your judgment of them. The OP doesn't know that this woman has dementia - she "can't help but wonder" if she does. So no, I don't know that she has dementia and therefore feel no compassion for a thief. You certainly read a lot into people's posts and think the worst of your fellow posters. Why not give them the benefit of the doubt - show some compassion yourself before leaping to conclusions about posts..

And why jump to conclusions and assume the worst about the neighbor lady?

Why not give her the benefit of the doubt that she just might have deminished mental capabilities?

Afterall, it is the holiday season.

You know, good will towards our fellow man, and all that stuff?

It's one thing to say it, but it's entirely different to actually do it.

Excuse me?

You were the first one to post on this thread.

Your first words were: "That's shameful!"

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

@Lucky Charm wrote:
@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
@Pearlee wrote:
@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
So, people don't feel compassion for those with dementia?

Wow.

That's very, very sad.

There by the grace of G-d goes you, a loved one, and I.

Why assume the worst of this woman?

IF she has dementia, then she deserves compassion, not vilification and condemnation.

@Plaid Pants2 No need for the attitude of condemnation toward your fellow posters. You are so harsh leaping to your judgment of them. The OP doesn't know that this woman has dementia - she "can't help but wonder" if she does. So no, I don't know that she has dementia and therefore feel no compassion for a thief. You certainly read a lot into people's posts and think the worst of your fellow posters. Why not give them the benefit of the doubt - show some compassion yourself before leaping to conclusions about posts..

And why jump to conclusions and assume the worst about the neighbor lady?

Why not give her the benefit of the doubt that she just might have deminished mental capabilities?

Afterall, it is the holiday season.

You know, good will towards our fellow man, and all that stuff?

It's one thing to say it, but it's entirely different to actually do it.

Excuse me?

You were the first one to post on this thread.

Your first words were: "That's shameful!"

Yes, it is shameful that she took the cookies, but at the same time, she may not have realized that she did so.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

This lady was also my neighbor from my childhood neighborhood. I have known her forever.

The kids, me included, used to go to her house for drinks and Italian cookies because she lived across the street from the playground. She was a great friend to my parents.

She must be in her upper 80's in age.

We gave her her a check, so no worries about her stealing money. I am not angry, just concerned. This is so not her MO.

After Christmas, I think I will give her daughter a call. There has to be something wrong.

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

I would think it's just common sense to confront her and ask.

I would never trust her in my home for any reason again. You may find out she distributed the items as gifts and took credit for making and assembling them.

Careful who you let into your home for the holidays.

Never Forget the Native American Indian Holocaust

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

All I can say is that I could write a book......And then, one day, I was watching a TV show in which they were talking about dementia and Alsheimer's. At the end of the segment one of the doctors was going over the various symptoms and then said that a person continuously stealing things is or could be one of the symptoms of one or both of those medical disorders. (Although, I'm only guessing that if they have also been doing it in their younger, mid-life years, it could be a psychological problem?) ............ Regardless: 'I mean', who in their 'right mind' would go around stealing things and not care at all that it's obvious as to who did it.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).