I will try to make this as brief as possible. I am a single mom. My daughter and I have been very close her whole life. She is 17. I have always made time for her to see her dad and her grandmother. He has some issues and the visits have had to be supervised. He has gradually undermined any kind of discipline that I have given her. If I take her texting away, he sends her a new phone. He sends her endless amounts of money. Basically he has been in the background saying horrible things about me and making me out to be the wicked witch. I got to the point where I had had enough and told her that if she was going to live in my house that she would have to abide by my rules. My sister then got in the middle of it and called my ex and now my daughter is staying with my sister. My sister basically threw me under the bus. My ex got her a car. She has no discipline in my sister's house. My sister has never been married and she has never had any children. There are a lot of horrible things that my ex has done that my sister knows about and yet she did this to me. She also let my daughter go out of town to spend Thanksgiving with him without supervision without even telling me. What was supposed to be such a happy time of planning for college and her senior year in high school has just been devastating for me. My daughter and I did everything together and now she doesn't speak to me. She did not even call me for Thanksgiving. My mom and dad have both died and basically I have no family left. I am having a very hard time dealing with this. I just don't understand how my daughter could have done this to me. She has basically thrown me away. Her father gives her anything that she wants. I also am without a sister now as she betrayed me so very badly. I keep asking myself why. I know that I will have to forgive all of them in the long run but I just cannot now. I cry and cry. The holidays are especially hard. When I had asked my daughter where she was going for Thanksgiving, she told me to mind my f------ business. I feel so stupid that he has methodically been turning her against me with his phone calls right under my nose. I don't know what to do. I guess there is really nothing that I can do. I am sure that she will be going to see him at Christmas as well. How can your children just turn on you like this. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this with an ex-husband? My daughter means everything to me. I tried to teach her values and the right way to treat people. She saw me take care of my mom when she had cancer. Now she is someone I don't even know. Please help me with advice to cope. It is just so, so hard. All I do is pray that she will be ok. Thanks for any advice.
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