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[ahoymate]

On 6/20/2014 LipstickDiva said:

On 6/20/2014 JustJazzmom said:

On 6/20/2014 LipstickDiva said:

According to etiquette experts, no gift is required if you attend a destination wedding because of the cost involved for you to attend such event.

Seriously?? Can you drop a source on this?

I'm serious. I was shocked when I read it. I can try and find the source. I read it a couple of months ago.

Seriously people, why would a gift be expected if you are required to travel some distance for a wedding? Example: airplane & hotel & your time. Crazy! Your attendance should be the gift.

[VanSleepy]

Emily Post says you have to give a gift. I guess not all the ""experts"" agree. (I did not mean that snarky - kinda sounds like it)

[Mama Mia]

VanSleepy is right about the Emily Post site, there are a lot different sources on Google, and some say no, your presence is enough. It would behoove anyone in this situation, the OP, to read some of them, then decide what is best for her.

mm

[Lipstickdiva]

On 6/20/2014 VanSleepy said: Emily Post says you have to give a gift. I guess not all the ""experts"" agree. (I did not mean that snarky - kinda sounds like it)

Yes she does. But Emily Post also says you can ""reqister"" for cash gifts doesn't she? And I find that major tacky.

Other sites say you have to give a gift but it could be a lower price point.

I personally wouldn't attend without giving a gift. But that's just me.

[VanSleepy]

What if it is not a destination wedding, but just someone who lives in another state? You're still possibly paying airfare, rental car, hotel. Would you not give a gift?

[Mj12]

On 6/20/2014 VanSleepy said: Emily Post says you have to give a gift. I guess not all the "experts" agree. (I did not mean that snarky - kinda sounds like it)

I read the same, VanSleepy. That you always have to send/bring a gift, no matter the type or location of wedding, but that if you're attending a destination wedding, the gift may be less in value due to all the $$$ being spent to attend.

[Mj12]

On 6/20/2014 LipstickDiva said:

On 6/20/2014 VanSleepy said: Emily Post says you have to give a gift. I guess not all the ""experts"" agree. (I did not mean that snarky - kinda sounds like it)

Yes she does. But Emily Post also says you can ""reqister"" for cash gifts doesn't she? And I find that major tacky.

Other sites say you have to give a gift but it could be a lower price point.

I personally wouldn't attend without giving a gift. But that's just me.

That is just awful!

[Mama Mia]

On 6/20/2014 LipstickDiva said:

On 6/20/2014 VanSleepy said: Emily Post says you have to give a gift. I guess not all the "experts" agree. (I did not mean that snarky - kinda sounds like it)

Yes she does. But Emily Post also says you can "reqister" for cash gifts doesn't she? And I find that major tacky.

Other sites say you have to give a gift but it could be a lower price point.

I personally wouldn't attend without giving a gift. But that's just me.

That's why OP should Google a lot of sources, as I just said in my post. Emily Post has a long post about it, so does HuffPost,.she should be able to figure it out now.

mm

[KathyPet]

I read a etiquette advice column for bride's planing a destination wedding and the author suggested that since guests attending such a event have spent a lot of money to get there that it would be a nice thing for the couple to.state that no gifts are expected.

[luvdoodles]

Money, money, money. They can spend it as they please. They didn't register anywhere, so maybe they are hoping that's what their gift would be. Who can't use a little extra fun money.