Re: Need Wedding Gift Advice

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

Since they have a "huge house" and have lived together 7 years, I'd make a donation to a charity of their choice (ask them) and be done with it. I personally wouldn't give a check to people with a huge house and a destination wedding. But hey that's just me!

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

Thanks for the advice everyone! scottie - I could ask DH's sister, but I know what she will say - anything you want! Every year at Thanksgiving I try to get gift ideas, but it's really hard. We always end up giving gift cards for Christmas, but we try to pick places each family member would appreciate. I think I'm leaning to sending a check. For me personally - and not DH and kids - he's always been special to me. On my side of the family there are no cousins for my kids as my only sibling died when he was young. DH has a large family, but all but DD and the oldest are girls! I really want to see him take his vows, even though seeing them together is nothing new. Thanks again everyone! Smile

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

cash/check is NEVER a wrong gift and always appropriate for the happy couple. i think it is totally fine to send it before the wedding to their home.

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ennui1 · ‎06-23-2013

It is traditional in Ireland to give a
Newlywed couple a crystal bowl.
Symbolizing Wealth, Health, and Happiness.
Legend has it that as long as the bowl
is safe and secure, the couple will be blessed
with the laughter of children,
the health of a lion,
and coins in their purse.

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ANOTHER CUSTOM
There is also a custom to give a bell. The bell is to be rung at the end of the wedding and later when there are problems in the home the couple are to ring the bell to remind themselves of their wedding day.</center>

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

Since it seem you have a special spot for him, do you have perhaps a family heirloom that could be passed down at this time? Something either from a man in the family (pocket watch, special desk set, cuff links) or something household wise (family bible, grandma's tea set, favorite family recipes made into a nice box or file). This along with the money would let him know how special he is to you all.

Seems like they aren't super young, and probably mature enough to appreciate a family treasure passed down now. I think these make better gifts than anything you could buy.

muttmom · ‎11-28-2012

When we attended a destination wedding, the couple wanted no presents. They felt just having family and friends attend was more than enough.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

According to etiquette experts, no gift is required if you attend a destination wedding because of the cost involved for you to attend such event.

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

On 6/20/2014 LipstickDiva said:
According to etiquette experts, no gift is required if you attend a destination wedding because of the cost involved for you to attend such event.

That makes perfect sense to me!

JustJazzmom · ‎03-09-2010

On 6/20/2014 LipstickDiva said:
According to etiquette experts, no gift is required if you attend a destination wedding because of the cost involved for you to attend such event.

Seriously?? Can you drop a source on this?

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Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

On 6/20/2014 JustJazzmom said:
On 6/20/2014 LipstickDiva said:
According to etiquette experts, no gift is required if you attend a destination wedding because of the cost involved for you to attend such event.

Seriously?? Can you drop a source on this?

I'm serious. I was shocked when I read it. I can try and find the source. I read it a couple of months ago.