Need Advice on How to Handle a Neighbor Situation ... - Page 2

Julie928 · ‎04-08-2013

@KathyPet ~ I agree with you but my reasons for reacting this way were stated in my original post. When you pile on issue and issue just when is enough, well, enough? I realize the cost is only a few dollars but it will happen again when it's time to mow the weeds in a couple of weeks. Do I keep fixing their mistakes? I already know we're stuck fixing it this time but I want to make sure it doesn't happen again. I was raised (as I'm sure you and many others here were) to take responsibility for my actions. Frustrating when others don't do just that...

YorkieonmyPillow · ‎01-13-2013

Didn't you say your husband loathes confrontations?

I think you made these people mad and this is how they're "getting back" at you.

Instead of calling and reporting them for this and that, I would give it a rest and perhaps they will cool off, in time.....

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@Julie928

I was about to offer @truffle 's advice. Your neighbors might be renters. You might have other neighbors who also have trouble with them, ask around, get together or on your own find out who owns the house.

If they don't own it, tell whoever does, and tell them their property is getting run down, its value will decrease. They won't want that to happen.

Good luck!

FranandZoe · ‎03-09-2010

For starters I'd remove the picket fence and install a vinyl one - as high as you're permitted. And I wouldn't deal with them directly anymore. Code enforcement, police, whatever but they don't seem to care or take you seriously so don't aggravate yourselves.

Stormygirl · ‎08-01-2015

Good Luck Julie on whatever you decide to do. I do know what it is like when issue after issue piles up for over a year. Is frustrating and exasperating. Is easy for us here to give advice but noone is in your shoes. I think the people OWN the house and that is certainly much harder to deal with. (easier if they are renters) It also affects your home value if neighbors dont upkeep their property. ......that is even more maddening. I understand the feelings and hugs. You have a restful night and do whatever you and your husband feel is right.

Julie928 · ‎04-08-2013

@Stormygirl ~ Thank you so much for your kind words. I realized that putting my energy into posting about something I really cannot do anything about was taking away from focusing on all the good in my life. There will always be difficult people and/or situations in our lives. I guess the answer is to not give them the power to anger or upset us (easier said than done, lol). You have a good night as well and thanks again. :-)

Stormygirl · ‎08-01-2015

Words of wisdom.........you are right. Don't let anything take away from those blessings or cause you to lose focus on "the positive path". You are so right, there will always be those who challenge our good vibes and situations will come up....couldnt have said it better...yup dont give your power and happiness away to anyone.

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

@Julie928 wrote:
@Stormygirl ~ Thank you so much for your kind words. I realized that putting my energy into posting about something I really cannot do anything about was taking away from focusing on all the good in my life. There will always be difficult people and/or situations in our lives. I guess the answer is to not give them the power to anger or upset us (easier said than done, lol). You have a good night as well and thanks again. :-)

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@Julie928

Actually, there are things you could do about it. Several.

febe1 · ‎01-22-2012

My son had a problem with their next door neighbor's dog barking, as they left him out all night. My son tried everything conceivable for a year and couldn't get anywhere. The complaint made the neighbors mad and they dug their heels in. The end result after a year, was my son sold their home and moved a few blocks away. His children loved their school, and they loved their community.

There are people in this world who are just mean and hateful individuals.