On 3/12/2014 sidsmom said: On 3/11/2014 shorelady said: On 3/11/2014 Caravaggio said: On 3/11/2014 JaneMarple said: On 3/11/2014 ktlynam said: The parents-to-be are estranged? Is he going to support this child and be in his/her life? If so, he has every right to be there at the birth of his child.
What does one have to do with the Other? If he supports the baby he can be there? and if he doesn't he shouldn't be? That makes no sense at all.
He has the obligation to support the child when it is born. He as a estranged spouse no longer has marital right to order his estranged spouse around. NJ law . I agree with the ruling.
As a resident of NJ, are you telling me that my DH of over 40 years has a right to order me around? That's what it certainly sounds like. Since when is it a marital right? You can't be serious. This couple was never married, so he is not classified as an "estranged spouse".
Some here have gone totally off the radar and insinuated he's a jerk, a drug abuser, a control freak, etc. without knowing the entire story. Just as that may be possible, so could the fact that she is just being spiteful and getting even for something. No one knows for sure. She probably will be tripping over herself to file papers for child support.
ITA. Again, we'll never know the truth & it sounds they're both idiots, but I can't help but think the "Better Bad" is the father. In this day of Deadbeat Dads, he could've ran off to the hills, never to be found again.....but he wanted to marry her. Jerks, druggies, control freaks don't want to MARRY....just that action alone says a lot to me....that HE was the one wanting to make this work...to provide a life for his girlfriend & baby. The judge did not rule who would be the better parent, but who had control of the baby until it's officially born...then the truth will come out that he's probably an ok guy? Again, we'll never know for sure. Woman as the victim? Don't be so fast to assume....history has shown women can be pretty big "B's".
The woman could be the druggie, jerk, control freak, a really bad person...but the judge I has to rule in her favor due to Roe vs Wade. From time of conception to baby's first breath, the woman has 100% control....after that! it's a different story. The ruling is not a popularity contest....so the ruling has nothing to do with the quality of humans of these parents. Only future rulings will determine that.
Just because Dad wanted to get married doesn't mean he's a Prince Charming either.
HE may be a druggie, cheat, loser, abusive, domineering creep.
They can determine custody, support and all that after the child is delivered in peace.
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