Community Chat

[perryp]

Bless you all for your perspectives & caring responses. I am moved to tears by the openness you have shown. I was too upset to take in everything posted yesterday, but will read these posts again later today. We are showing our house this afternoon, but I will get back to this after .

I do feel calmer by your interest & support...thank you all!

[missy1]

On 3/14/2015 Ford1224 said:

On one of the shows I watched last night (either the news or one of the entertainment shows e.g., Extra, Access Hollywood) the cost of a modern day wedding these days can approach $100,000. NYC was the highest cost among the cities . . . well over $70,000. I just can't absorb that thought, even if one is rich.

Especially, whey they now tend to end in divorce. 100,000 for a one day party. Buy a home etc. Many go in debt to impress.

[violann]

As usual, my take is this- is it going to make YOUR life more pleasant to make a big issue of this, or will your life be more pleasant by approaching it from a more moderate position? Approaching a disagreement almost always ends better if you plan how you want it to end before you speak.

[Vamp]

Obviously I don't know you or your husband and what your relationship is like, but in every marriage each partner, at times, does something thoughtless and annoying. Talk to your husband and tell him how that made you feel. Do it when you are calm and rational, and don't drag up any unrelated offenses from the past. Just let him know, and then let your anger go. Good luck.

[LilacTree]

On 3/14/2015 ROMARY 1 said:

Ford1224: At least you weren't overly stressed (your first marriage) as many brides are now-a-days. (I don't quite understand how they manage to do it. ) In a way, it probably was a blessing for you.

No, not my own, but I have four daughters and had four weddings in the past. I made two of the wedding gowns, two of the flower girl dresses, two of the MOB (mine) dresses, and had a run-in with the Catholic Church to the point where I had to write to the Bishop of the diocese because the priest refused to officiate at the wedding of my first daughter due to her husband admitting he was a non-believer. (I guess he should have lied.) This was two weeks before the wedding, invitations were already out and we almost wound up having to enlist the help of a church of another denomination who agreed to marry them on such short notice. The Bishop wound up making a compromise and they were married in the Catholic Church by a deacon, who was very nice, by the way, and even came to the reception.

Being the MOB, I also arranged all of the wedding showers, flowers, and helped with the catering.

By comparison, yes, my own wedding was a breeze for me. My future husband did make a huge mistake, however, by renting a Rolls Royce from a NYC stable to pick me up in Jersey and also drive us to the reception. It never arrived at our house and I was an hour and a half late for the wedding, my father driving me there in my Chevy Impala convertible which had not been washed.

Not to mention all the guests who had to sit in the church all of that time, and then my husband's very Irish Catholic mother had arranged a "high nuptial mass" with three priests on the altar which lasted almost two hours. Needless to say, the reception lasted until we were finished eating and we were rushed out of the restaurant because another wedding was scheduled right behind ours. An auspicious start to a very dysfunctional marriage. How I lasted eight years living that farce, I will never know.