Community Chat

[Luv2Decorate]

I am watching the local news and there is another missing woman. Do you think they just leave because they can't handle things anymore, or that they are abducted? It's so frightening to see this so often on the news.

I can't imagine just walking away and not telling anyone. It scares me that if they are taken too. With a teenage daughter driving at night, it worrisome.

[ROMARY]

Sometimes young girls/women are too trusting. And they aren't paying attention to their surroundings because many are walking and texting. I see it everywhere around here. Moms must warn their daughters to 'be careful'. I can't recall how many times (many) my mom would say: ""Be careful!"" as I was leaving the house.

[sylviahomeatlast]

it's frightening---I' old but from a distance I look young because I'm very small---sometimes I think I'm not as cautious as I should be

[RedTop]

I totally agree that it is very disturbing to hear of anyone being classified as "missing". Just this week, the remains of a woman who has been "missing" for nearly a year in a nearby county were found in a shallow grave and identified. The twist is that the father and son who are the main suspects in her death are already in jail for robbing and killing a man nearly 3 years ago. The man who was killed, left his home for the long drive to work, but never made it to his job. After searching all the embankments along his route and not finding his body, or his truck, the investigation took a different turn, and it was almost 1 1/2 years before the father and son were arrested in connection with his death. A search of their property turned up many suspicious things which is how police found the remains of this missing woman. The father and son are reportedly into drugs; the man who was killed was known to carry a large sum of cash, and the woman was also involved in drugs.

[ROMARY]

Moms must tell their young children, especially girls, to be very careful while walking. I often say 'walk facing traffic', never walk with traffic/cars behind you. If possible. I'm guessing predators 'follow' girls walking alone, etc. Anyway, if we teach our daughters/grandchildren this very important part of life when they are very young, it is a step in the right (and safe) direction. Don't be distracted. "Pay attention!", as my mom often said (when there weren't any cell phones and texting).

[bells4me]

Women & children disappear every day. Only a few make the news.

[4Kicks]

And yet I cannot get DH to lock the front door after he comes in. Same goes for shutting the garage (attached) door. Some people are just oblivious to crime statistics and think it can never happen to them. Until it does.

[4Kicks]

On 4/27/2014 ROMARY said:

Moms must tell their young children, especially girls, to be very careful while walking. I often say 'walk facing traffic', never walk with traffic/cars behind you. If possible. I'm guessing predators 'follow' girls walking alone, etc. Anyway, if we teach our daughters/grandchildren this very important part of life when they are very young, it is a step in the right (and safe) direction. Don't be distracted. "Pay attention!", as my mom often said (when there weren't any cell phones and texting).

Good idea, and hopefully schools are covering things like this. I know they do in my area. There are child predators EVERYWHERE. I live in a fairly upscale adult community and get the sheriff reports emailed to me which includes notifications of convicted and released Level 1, 2, and 3 offenders and where they are living. I know of three living in my small community, which is fine, until the grandkids visit.

[gazelle77]

People do just walk away without telling anyone... I did at 17. It was 1974 and I was living on my own, working and renting a room. I was estranged from my family at the time. I was unhappy. I packed up my few things in a suitcase, left a letter to my landlord who I was renting from that I was leaving.. I had no car so I took a city bus to the grey hound bus terminal in Seattle, and just picked a random city to go to. It ended up being Portland Oregon.

I arrived with my suitcase in hand and $200 cash in Portland. I walked about 20 blocks to the Woman's YWCA and for $15 dollars a week I rented a shared room. The next day I walked downtown( I was in the middle part of Portland near in downtown) and got a job as a wait person at a VIPS( like a Denny's). I worked full time there and living at the YWCA, saved up my tip money for about two months. Then I found an apartment to rent for $350.00 a Month. It was in an old Victorian home that had converted to apartments with kitchens. I lived there pretty much with all the drug dealers and such for about a year.... I got a dog at the pound and had a friend. Sometimes at night the cops would raid someone who lived there... it was REAL LIFE IN THE CITY. I had pimps come up to me when I was on walks with my dog... it was very scary. But, I must have had an angel looking out for me.

My Father did not know where I disappeared to... It was at the same time as Ted Bundy... and all the missing girls. The police told him that at 17 I was an adult not a child and they would not look into my disappearance. I did after about three years write my Father and he came to visit me in Portland. I feel bad I put him through all of that now, but, I was young and careless and just doing what I felt I needed to with no direction in my life at that time. I made some careless choices... but, I think it also made me very strong and independent at a young age. And that experience gave me the strength I have today to overcome diversity.

SO YES. People do just leave, disappear on their own. It is very common. To start over, get away from family whatever.

[cody2]

On 4/27/2014 gazelle77 said:

People do just walk away without telling anyone... I did at 17. It was 1974 and I was living on my own, working and renting a room. I was estranged from my family at the time. I was unhappy. I packed up my few things in a suitcase, left a letter to my landlord who I was renting from that I was leaving.. I had no car so I took a city bus to the grey hound bus terminal in Seattle, and just picked a random city to go to. It ended up being Portland Oregon.

I arrived with my suitcase in hand and $200 cash in Portland. I walked about 20 blocks to the Woman's YWCA and for $15 dollars a week I rented a shared room. The next day I walked downtown( I was in the middle part of Portland near in downtown) and got a job as a wait person at a VIPS( like a Denny's). I worked full time there and living at the YWCA, saved up my tip money for about two months. Then I found an apartment to rent for $350.00 a Month. It was in an old Victorian home that had converted to apartments with kitchens. I lived there pretty much with all the drug dealers and such for about a year.... I got a dog at the pound and had a friend. Sometimes at night the cops would raid someone who lived there... it was REAL LIFE IN THE CITY. I had pimps come up to me when I was on walks with my dog... it was very scary. But, I must have had an angel looking out for me.

My Father did not know where I disappeared to... It was at the same time as Ted Bundy... and all the missing girls. The police told him that at 17 I was an adult not a child and they would not look into my disappearance. I did after about three years write my Father and he came to visit me in Portland. I feel bad I put him through all of that now, but, I was young and careless and just doing what I felt I needed to with no direction in my life at that time. I made some careless choices... but, I think it also made me very strong and independent at a young age. And that experience gave me the strength I have today to overcome diversity.

SO YES. People do just leave, disappear on their own. It is very common. To start over, get away from family whatever.

Ok, please don't take this wrong. But did you mean Adversity? Again, I am not making fun. I just think you made an honest mistake but I do not believe you are not trying to overcome Diversity.