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[Sooner]

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@SydneyH wrote:

? Why should anyone posting here cease offering their opinion?

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@SydneyH I think as some have pointed about it is about trying to read a post and understand as best you can where that person is coming from.  It's about not offering some off the cuff information or opinions that might be very counterproductive for them. 

That's all I think. Maybe we should stop giving SOME advice SOMETIMES is a better way of saying it. . . 

[blackhole99]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

It should be human nature to want to help others, but  when people do not take advice,and keep posting about the same problem, there is not much any of us can do, we do not know them personally, and what might be really going on with them,it is not about,TURNING OUR BACK ON THEM, but it is also our nature to get tired of going over the same thing over and over

Any chronic illness will eventually wear the people out who are around it, even on these boards. I think if we are going to respond to these requests for help we need to try and walk a mile in their shoes before we start typing. I read some of these posts and think these people are either pulling my leg or they are seriously in trouble.

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[Shanus]

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@alicedee wrote:

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@Shanus wrote:

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@alicedee wrote:

You never really know who you are communicating with.  Someone may be pulling everyone's cyber leg.  Or they may indeed have serious issues.  If the moderators think a person is legitimately having mental/emotional issues, I feel they should have a policy in place as to how to handle.... contacting the poster with phone numbers of places they could call or even requesting a police welfare check.  

It is probably fruitless and possibly dangerous for other posters here to try to be mental health professionals.

Once in awhile there will be a purposely snide remark made, but most posters just give their opinions.  Some are more blunt than others....but  everyone has their own personality and way of communicating.

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@alicedee   No. I don't think the mods should have the added responsibility of being trained professionals to know when a post is a cry for help. Nor should they be schooled in social and governmental agencies that can help. 

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But casual posters on a shopping channel forum should?

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@alicedee   Most of us can recognize when someone needs a shoulder to cry on, some advice or is in need of more help than we should offer to give...professional help. 

[esmerelda]

How many times have posters here gotten the whole, real story behind some of the cries for help?  There have been stories that have changed midway or facts come out slowly.

How does anyone here know the person "in need" doesn't already have someone to listen and advise them but they don't like the advice that person...who may know all the facts...is giving them?

I may offer a suggestion, but I don't start a campaign trying to convince the poster who asked for advice to do what I suggest.  I don't "advise" based on things I assume.

Yeah, that thread a few weeks ago (I don't even remember who posted it) where someone way saying, "are you hurt," "find a safe place," "wait until he's gone and then pack everything and leave," blah, blah blah...those replies...yeah.

[NickNack]

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@Trinity11 wrote:

If someone comes here and asks for advice that is one thing. However, there are a number of times that someone will ask a question and instead of answering the question an unsolicited lecture comes about how if they eat one particular way that they will no longer be sick. Essentially, they are told that they "choose" to be sick. Choice is the common denominator in all these threads. People are essentially blamed for being sick.

Thread after thread is removed because of this. The poster goes their merry way until the next time it happens. Rinse Repeat.

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@Trinity11   Those posts are pretty unbearable to read.  It's just unbelievable that someone would think their way of eating solves all health problems.

[Trinity11]

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@NickNack wrote:

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@Trinity11 wrote:

If someone comes here and asks for advice that is one thing. However, there are a number of times that someone will ask a question and instead of answering the question an unsolicited lecture comes about how if they eat one particular way that they will no longer be sick. Essentially, they are told that they "choose" to be sick. Choice is the common denominator in all these threads. People are essentially blamed for being sick.

Thread after thread is removed because of this. The poster goes their merry way until the next time it happens. Rinse Repeat.

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@Trinity11   Those posts are pretty unbearable to read.  It's just unbelievable that someone would think their way of eating solves all health problems.

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@NickNack  Posters are essentially being told that if they had just followed a plant based diet, they would not be sick. The word choice is thrown around. When scientific, medical factual information is introduced into the conversation it is ignored.

[cherry]

Not only is it ignored ,we are advised to eat a diet, that would in time , cripple or kill us

[Cakers3]

As I said before, nobody is going to leave this planet alive.

A person can chew plants until they can no longer chew but he/she will still die.

What annoys me is what @Trinity11 pointed out-how people are to blame for their illnesses.

Of course diet is important but blaming a person because she ate an egg or uses olive oil or whatever is cruel.

Most hypocritical is the nagging how the meat industry is polluting the planet and how cruel the industry is....yet ............wear leather.

It isn't so much the lecture it is how it is delivered.   Not to mention opposing pov backed by credible sources is always ignored.

I like a good discussion but once it becomes personal that's the end for me.

[Trinity11]

On a happy note Halfpint is back posting on Showme’s thread.

[esmerelda]

hallelujah!  Hopefully she'll find her way to this thread.