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[ROMARY]

Irishgirl:   It warms my heart to watch helpful youngsters!  Just think of how great he feels, accomplishing a task or chore!   Probably the same feeling we have after we have vacuumed our carpeting, or washed our car, etc.  That fresh feeling of doing something 'right'.  Or at the very least of just doing 'something', rather than nothing at all; which, sometimes might be slightly subconsciously depressing for some children. Laying around, doing absolutely nothing isn't a good thing, imo.   Summary:  Good for this young man!    Sending hugs to him and other ambitious youngsters!

[moon_gazer]

I am in my 60's and married very young at 19 - so, I have been married over half of my life. If I am being completely honest, I would have to say that I have been unhappy in this marriage for a very long time. It's not that he is a bad guy - just not the one for me. He has never been affectionate or very loving - we're really nothing alike - and it makes me feel as though I am trapped and have missed out on something BIG. And I can't even say what that something is since I've never experienced it. I just have a yearning. I have wasted most of my life with him. Had I  been born a generation later, I think I wouldn't have felt such pressure to marry so quickly. What in the world was the big, freakin' rush to do so, anyway?  Today, when I think about being 19 - my gosh.... I was still just a kid! I could've done so many other things with my life.       

[blackhole99]

@moon_gazerI'm your age and married at 23, but I got an education and enjoyed a little of the sexual revolution and that whole scene in the late 60's and early 70's. I was lucky and married the man of my dreams and we are still together 43 years later. I'm sure it would be hard to start over in your 60's, but if you are so unhappy I'd take it into consideration. Life is too short and people can have fun and enjoy life in their senior years.

[Evie2004]

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@Noel7 wrote:

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@Evie2004 wrote:

@Noel7, we get to meet the sweet girl tomorrow 💞

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@Evie2004

That’s wonderful, congratulations 😊

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Noel7, we met our great-great niece today. She was awake & is beautiful..her Grandma (our niece) was watching her, while Mom & Dad were napping..they knew we were coming & didn't get up. 

[Evie2004]

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@lovestodance wrote:

My DH,& I celebrated our 61st Ann on Oct 4th....

Have 3 married children same spouses, & happly married.

Am blessed with 4 Grandchildren,and 2 Great-Grandchildren.. The old Great Grand daughter will be 15 in December...

lovestodance

@lovestodance, congrats on your anniversary! We just celebrated our 50th this summer..no one in our family has been married this long! 

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[Noel7]

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@Evie2004 wrote:

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@Noel7 wrote:

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@Evie2004 wrote:

@Noel7, we get to meet the sweet girl tomorrow 💞

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@Evie2004

That’s wonderful, congratulations 😊

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Noel7, we met our great-great niece today. She was awake & is beautiful..her Grandma (our niece) was watching her, while Mom & Dad were napping..they knew we were coming & didn't get up. 

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Hi @Evie2004

So glad you got to spend time with the baby.  I remember when we came home with our baby girl. We put her in the bassinet right next to the bed, DH and I got in bed and slept and slept such a long time, we were so tired.

Here’s hoping those parents can catch up on sleep and spend time with you on your next visit

[tansy]

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@moon_gazer wrote:

I am in my 60's and married very young at 19 - so, I have been married over half of my life. If I am being completely honest, I would have to say that I have been unhappy in this marriage for a very long time. It's not that he is a bad guy - just not the one for me. He has never been affectionate or very loving - we're really nothing alike - and it makes me feel as though I am trapped and have missed out on something BIG. And I can't even say what that something is since I've never experienced it. I just have a yearning. I have wasted most of my life with him. Had I  been born a generation later, I think I wouldn't have felt such pressure to marry so quickly. What in the world was the big, freakin' rush to do so, anyway?  Today, when I think about being 19 - my gosh.... I was still just a kid! I could've done so many other things with my life.       

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I’m kind of tired and my thoughts are scattered but your post makes me sad.  I married just shy of 20 and am now 65 — never truly lived life on my own.  Without my getting preachy, work on having fun together, talk about what to do with the upcoming years that would make you both happy and forget about some vague yearning for what might have been, @moon_gazer.

[TheMemphisVette]

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@moon_gazer wrote:

I am in my 60's and married very young at 19 - so, I have been married over half of my life. If I am being completely honest, I would have to say that I have been unhappy in this marriage for a very long time. It's not that he is a bad guy - just not the one for me. He has never been affectionate or very loving - we're really nothing alike - and it makes me feel as though I am trapped and have missed out on something BIG. And I can't even say what that something is since I've never experienced it. I just have a yearning. I have wasted most of my life with him. Had I  been born a generation later, I think I wouldn't have felt such pressure to marry so quickly. What in the world was the big, freakin' rush to do so, anyway?  Today, when I think about being 19 - my gosh.... I was still just a kid! I could've done so many other things with my life.       

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wasted?  no, it's what makes you who you are.   now, what would you like to do?  you just may have more than 30 more years.  lots of time for living your dream.

[Irshgrl31201]

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@moon_gazer wrote:

I am in my 60's and married very young at 19 - so, I have been married over half of my life. If I am being completely honest, I would have to say that I have been unhappy in this marriage for a very long time. It's not that he is a bad guy - just not the one for me. He has never been affectionate or very loving - we're really nothing alike - and it makes me feel as though I am trapped and have missed out on something BIG. And I can't even say what that something is since I've never experienced it. I just have a yearning. I have wasted most of my life with him. Had I  been born a generation later, I think I wouldn't have felt such pressure to marry so quickly. What in the world was the big, freakin' rush to do so, anyway?  Today, when I think about being 19 - my gosh.... I was still just a kid! I could've done so many other things with my life.       

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I am so sorry @moon_gazer. I do hope that you are doing things with friends/family or other people you love, trying to enjoy life the best you can. You are never too old to start over and make yourself happy though. I have a family friend who just divorced at 68 after being unhappily married since she was 17. Same situation, not a bad man but they weren't made for each other at all. I cannot tell you how much she is loving life right now. The last time I saw her, it was like meeting a different person. I have known her since I was 9 or so and while she was always a nice and sweet woman, the happiness just emanates from her in a way it never did before.

[Irshgrl31201]

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@Noel7 wrote:

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@Irshgrl31201 wrote:

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@Noel7 wrote:

You and I are on the same page @Irshgrl31201

It’s nice to see you and I hope you’ve been well 😀

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It is nice to see you too! I have been well, how have you been @Noel7?

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@Irshgrl31201

I’ve been well, also.  We had a nasty summer here, a lot of heat.  SF, fog city, went up to 106, breaking all records by a mile.  We’re at 80 degrees today, the heat just keeps coming. I love hearing stories about your grandson 😊 

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I hear you, we had a brutally humid summer too and up until last week it was very humid.  It has started to calm down. Since my auto immune disease, it just kills me, I can't take that anymore. Hopefully you will get a nice cool down soon, I know it affects you too! I hope you health hasn't been giving you too much trouble. I haven't been on a whole lot lately so I have been able to keep up and chat with my friends here. Hope you are doing well though regarding that @Noel7!