MIL DIL issue - Page 37

Fabilola · ‎11-04-2011

That you are an ice queen. Even a germ of truth to that? By your own admission, "if she knew how much time I wasted here it on QVC it would blow her mind".

Nancy Drew · ‎03-11-2010

On 4/9/2014 Fabby said:
That you are an ice queen. Even a germ of truth to that? By your own admission, "if she knew how much time I wasted here it on QVC it would blow her mind".

Let it go....Let it go.... The cold never bothered me anyway.

Wrong is still wrong just because you benefited from it.

croemer · ‎03-10-2010

On 4/9/2014 Nancy Drew said:
On 4/9/2014 Fabby said:
That you are an ice queen. Even a germ of truth to that? By your own admission, "if she knew how much time I wasted here it on QVC it would blow her mind".

Let it go....Let it go.... The cold never bothered me anyway.

Nancy will you ask about MIL and DIL problems again? ${#emotions_dlg.lol}$

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Nancy Drew · ‎03-11-2010

On 4/9/2014 croemer said:
On 4/9/2014 Nancy Drew said:
On 4/9/2014 Fabby said:
That you are an ice queen. Even a germ of truth to that? By your own admission, "if she knew how much time I wasted here it on QVC it would blow her mind".

Let it go....Let it go.... The cold never bothered me anyway.

Nancy will you ask about MIL and DIL problems again? ${#emotions_dlg.lol}$

No. It has been eye opening, I got say that.

Wrong is still wrong just because you benefited from it.

SisterSisto · ‎06-14-2010

I have read and kept up on this thread and feel bad for the OP. I think the OP says things "off the cuff" or perhaps a little sarcastic because she was hurt by the stuff her DIL said. I get that, I'm like that, also. My take on all this is for the OP to continue to be who she is and do what she does. She raised her son and yes, she can have a relationship with her son and his family and DIL but I think it's going overboard to suggest lunch once a week, once a month, etc, etc. I get the feeling it would be the OP that is compromising and doing what wouldn't come naturally to her. I know I wouldn't want to go to lunch with someone that called me an Ice Queen. I also think she said this because of her irritation that her child was so excited and telling his mother all the great things they had done. Maybe it was just that, she was irritated and her mouth got the better of her. It must have bothered her because she called later to expand on it. If it were me, I would try to have a talk with DIL and see about "mending" a fence or two or at least talking it out. Lunch? No, not for me.

I don't have a DIL but I have a SIL with whom I'm not very close to but he treats me with respect. I also respect him because my daughter chose him and he's the father of my two grandchildren. I know he thinks I'm quirky (my daughter told me this) but I don't care. I am who I am. I don't spend long periods of time in his company and wouldn't want to. I do have to say one time in the 16 years that I've known him, he treated me special. I didn't know how to take it. He got tickets to the Seahawks game and he took me with him. He knows how rabid I am about football and especially the Hawks, so he had my daughter drop us off at the game and we would navigate Century field together. I only did this because he was making the effort and I wanted to please him and my daughter. He's an intelligent young man and I didn't know how to talk to him one on one. Well, I found out later he wanted to take me so he could hear me swear and scream at the players. My daughter had told him how I was during football games. I made it to the fourth quarter before I started to scream and swear, I looked at him horrified at what I did and he was curled up laughing and ended up giving me a high five. We are still not close but it's okay, I do know he likes it when I call them and ask for the two grandchildren so they can have an adult week-end and I can get my grandchildren fix.

I hope Nancy Drew can work this out because of the grandchildren, she wouldn't want to jeopardize her relationship with them. Oh, another thought on all the gifties.....start a savings account and contribute to that for each grandchild (say nothing to them about it) and when it comes time for graduation or college, present that to them. My husband and I will give each account $250 at birthday and holiday time and occasionally through out the year with graduation in mind. I also do purchase little gifties such as clothes, shoes, a few toys through out the year but nothing big. The kids just enjoy time at our house with their grandfather and grandmother.

Nancy, don't take it to heart with all the negative posters.....there's some doozies out there.

Nancy Drew · ‎03-11-2010

That is a great idea about the savings account for them! I will talk to hubby about that. See there are little gems that others can benefit from when others share their thoughts.

Wrong is still wrong just because you benefited from it.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

On 4/9/2014 Nancy Drew said:
That is a great idea about the savings account for them! I will talk to hubby about that. See there are little gems that others can benefit from when others share their thoughts.

It's like a jumble sale here, you have to sort through lots of junk to find a gem.

scotttie · ‎03-09-2010

Wow, #364 SisterSisto very well said!

I like the savings account idea too!

september · ‎03-09-2010

Nancy, I have to hand it to you...you are a good sport (for an ice queen ${#emotions_dlg.unsure}$ )

I posted my thoughts very early in this thread...still feel the same way. But I've seen all kinds of kooky imaginative scenarios stated about you and your family.

It is true that a lot of posters who start threads about personal issues, either abandon the thread, or just stop posting here after this sort of craziness takes place.

You haven't done that, so I'm guessing you know, in your heart, that you're being a good mom, a good grandma. We can't all be perfect, or be everything that others want us to be.

Elstongunn · ‎03-12-2010

On 4/9/2014 september said:
Nancy, I have to hand it to you...you are a good sport (for an ice queen ${#emotions_dlg.unsure}$ )

I posted my thoughts very early in this thread...still feel the same way. But I've seen all kinds of kooky imaginative scenarios stated about you and your family.

It is true that a lot of posters who start threads about personal issues, either abandon the thread, or just stop posting here after this sort of craziness takes place.

You haven't done that, so I'm guessing you know, in your heart, that you're being a good mom, a good grandma. We can't all be perfect, or be everything that others want us to be.

I agree!

Money doesn't talk; it swears. --Bob Dylan