MIL DIL issue - Page 27

Silver Lining · ‎04-16-2010

I'm older than you are, Nancy, and also want to live my life as I chose. I have friends, family, social activities, volunteer, and still work parttime as a social worker. The difference in us, though, is I like my DIL and you so very obviously don't like yours. She's "boring" and you'd "rather have a root canal" than be around her?! Geez! There has to be more to this story. I have more than a two-hour drive (one way) to see my son, DIL, and grandchildren.They just came back from a week at Key Largo/Key West. They travel all the time. They don't ask me to babysit while they are away because they know I have a busy life but I have willingly postponed, rescheduled or even canceled a few things when they unexpectedly needed me to come.

My DIL and I aren't "girlfriends" or anything of the sort. We don't say the words "I love you" to each other but we do show affection and have a lot of admiration and respect for each other. Now my grandchildren are something else. Even with a fulfilling life of my own, they are the absolute joy of my being. I have learned a lot about human nature and how personalities develop from them.

Nobody here heard the conversation, the tone of voice, or anything else. I think it is wrong of you to strike out at her here and of the posters who have stroked your ego by accusing her of being abusive, rude, overbearing and a host of other insults.

serenity4ever · ‎11-04-2013

On 4/6/2014 Nancy Drew said:
She said it a little harsh but not too harsh. We did do things in the beginning but she kind of bored me so I didn't want to hang that much with her. She is a good mother and she is stunning other than that not a whole lot going on. She wants to do things with out the kids so it isn't that she wants me for only babysitting although she does think I should want to babysit more than I do. I respect her as that is who my son choose and he is a grown man. I never call him as I wait until he has time to call me. He treats me very well. I thought things were going well. Kind of in shock and now feel a little guilty but yet I don't want to change things. Complicated I guess.

How much does her being stunning have to do with all of this? It isn't the first time a stunning woman has been rejected by an older woman....especially when she just happened to marry her son.

Silver Lining · ‎04-16-2010

On 4/7/2014 serenity4ever said:
On 4/6/2014 Nancy Drew said:
She said it a little harsh but not too harsh. We did do things in the beginning but she kind of bored me so I didn't want to hang that much with her. She is a good mother and she is stunning other than that not a whole lot going on. She wants to do things with out the kids so it isn't that she wants me for only babysitting although she does think I should want to babysit more than I do. I respect her as that is who my son choose and he is a grown man. I never call him as I wait until he has time to call me. He treats me very well. I thought things were going well. Kind of in shock and now feel a little guilty but yet I don't want to change things. Complicated I guess.

How much does her being stunning have to do with all of this? It isn't the first time a stunning woman has been rejected by an older woman....especially when she just happened to marry her son.

I think you might be on to something, Serenity. ${#emotions_dlg.biggrin}$

Silver Lotus · ‎03-12-2014

On 4/7/2014 serenity4ever said:
On 4/6/2014 Nancy Drew said:
She said it a little harsh but not too harsh. We did do things in the beginning but she kind of bored me so I didn't want to hang that much with her. She is a good mother and she is stunning other than that not a whole lot going on. She wants to do things with out the kids so it isn't that she wants me for only babysitting although she does think I should want to babysit more than I do. I respect her as that is who my son choose and he is a grown man. I never call him as I wait until he has time to call me. He treats me very well. I thought things were going well. Kind of in shock and now feel a little guilty but yet I don't want to change things. Complicated I guess.

How much does her being stunning have to do with all of this? It isn't the first time a stunning woman has been rejected by an older woman....especially when she just happened to marry her son.

serenity4ever · ‎11-04-2013

On 4/7/2014 Silver Lining said:
On 4/7/2014 serenity4ever said:
On 4/6/2014 Nancy Drew said:
She said it a little harsh but not too harsh. We did do things in the beginning but she kind of bored me so I didn't want to hang that much with her. She is a good mother and she is stunning other than that not a whole lot going on. She wants to do things with out the kids so it isn't that she wants me for only babysitting although she does think I should want to babysit more than I do. I respect her as that is who my son choose and he is a grown man. I never call him as I wait until he has time to call me. He treats me very well. I thought things were going well. Kind of in shock and now feel a little guilty but yet I don't want to change things. Complicated I guess.

How much does her being stunning have to do with all of this? It isn't the first time a stunning woman has been rejected by an older woman....especially when she just happened to marry her son.

I think you might be on to something, Serenity. ${#emotions_dlg.biggrin}$

Wink

scotttie · ‎03-09-2010

Oh please. Now ND is jealous of her daughter in law. Sigh.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

I think I would be bummed if one of my sons married a boring woman. Does that bother you OP?

Silver Lining · ‎04-16-2010

On 4/7/2014 beammeupscottie said:
Oh please. Now ND is jealous of her daughter in law. Sigh.

Hi Scottie. No, not out and out, but it is a possibility. There has to be something more to this story than the DIL is "boring" - there just has to be.

stilltamn8r · ‎03-14-2010

A reminder to all that when you marry someone, you are marrying their mother too..

serenity4ever · ‎11-04-2013

On 4/7/2014 Silver Lining said:
On 4/7/2014 beammeupscottie said:
Oh please. Now ND is jealous of her daughter in law. Sigh.

Hi Scottie. No, not out and out, but it is a possibility. There has to be something more to this story than the DIL is "boring" - there just has to be.

And the fact that the OP said she would rather have a root canal than be in the same room with her. ${#emotions_dlg.ohmy}$