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[croemer]

One of my all time fav songs Yuban and soooooooooo meaningful. Brings a tear to my eyes.

[tansy]

Love that song.

[esmerelda]

Wow. I guess that song will change the way the OP sees things. LOL!!

[JaneMarple]

I am the mother of four kids, three girls and one boy. My son is the only child married and he has two children. My DIL is a sweetheart, I thought at first that she was aloof but found out later that she is shy. I don't speak with her that often but when we see each other we pick up where we left off.

I'm in the habit of sending my kids and grandkids "just because" gifts, I don't like to wait until a birthday or holiday to let them know that I'm thinking of them. I also lend them my ear when they're down and need encouragement. I also give them my time when needed.

Isn't it every parent's dream to see that they (the kids) don't have it as hard as we did?

[Lady McMuffet]

On 4/8/2014 croemer said:

Hi LadyM...long time no see.

Hello, sweet croemer...;-) Been a long time. Hope all is well with you & yours. I read once & awhile & see your funny posts sometimes. You are one of my faves I think of often & miss. You know that!!!! Luv ya.

[croemer]

On 4/8/2014 Lady McMuffet said:

On 4/8/2014 croemer said:

Hi LadyM...long time no see.

Hello, sweet croemer...;-) Been a long time. Hope all is well with you & yours. I read once & awhile & see your funny posts sometimes. You are one of my faves I think of often & miss. You know that!!!! Luv ya.

And I feel the same LadyM. I hope you are doing well and just keeping busy. Miss Ya!

[bathina]

On 4/8/2014 JaneMarple said:

I am the mother of four kids, three girls and one boy. My son is the only child married and he has two children. My DIL is a sweetheart, I thought at first that she was aloof but found out later that she is shy. I don't speak with her that often but when we see each other we pick up where we left off.

I'm in the habit of sending my kids and grandkids "just because" gifts, I don't like to wait until a birthday or holiday to let them know that I'm thinking of them. I also lend them my ear when they're down and need encouragement. I also give them my time when needed.

Isn't every parent's dream to see that they(the kids) don't have it as hard aw we did?

[Jeremiah 2911]

Whether we realize it or not, our thoughts & attitudes towards other people will impact their lives -- in a positive or negative way.

We can smile & act nice but if we have negative thoughts towards someone -- they feel it. Harboring negative thoughts towards someone can make them feel hurt, rejected & angry.

The DIL could be picking up on the MIL's negativity towards her and it may be causing her to feel hurt, rejected & angry. The hurt & pain that the DIL is feeling can overflow to the husband & children which can cause a lot of grief for the entire family.

MIL can stop the cycle of hurt & pain in the family by taking the initiative to make a conscious effort to discontinue any negative thoughts she has towards her DIL. MIL can lead the way into healing of relationship by focusing more on her DIL's good qualities and strengths.

Perhaps if the MIL begins to show more acceptance & appreciation of the DIL, the DIL's attitude will begin to change towards the MIL.

Let it be clear that I'm not standing in judgment of the OP or her DIL. Just a suggestion in the spirit of trying to be helpful.

Hopefully the OP and her DIL will work out their differences and will begin to see each other in a new light.

[Lipstickdiva]

On 4/8/2014 Melania2 said:

On 4/8/2014 VanSleepy said: There is another thread going about watching grandchildren. Maybe the tone has changed since I read it yesterday, but there seems to be a whole bunch of grandmas who don't want to be babysitters.

I was amazed at those who are expected to watch their grand kids every weekend, who still work full time. They are afraid if they don't their kids will punish them by withholding the GK's.

Selfish kids much?

This is what I was talking about in my post. It makes me so angry that my friend does this and then complains. But yet she won't tell her daughter she can't babysit because she has other plans.

[croemer]

On 4/8/2014 Jeremiah 2911 said:

Whether we realize it or not, our thoughts & attitudes towards other people will impact their lives -- in a positive or negative way.

We can smile & act nice but if we have negative thoughts towards someone -- they feel it. Harboring negative thoughts towards someone can make them feel hurt, rejected & angry.

The DIL could be picking up on the MIL's negativity towards her and it may be causing her to feel hurt, rejected & angry. The hurt & pain that the DIL is feeling can overflow to the husband & children which can cause a lot of grief for the entire family.

MIL can stop the cycle of hurt & pain in the family by taking the initiative to make a conscious effort to discontinue any negative thoughts she has towards her DIL. MIL can lead the way into healing of relationship by focusing more on her DIL's good qualities and strengths.

Perhaps if the MIL begins to show more acceptance & appreciation of the DIL, the DIL's attitude will begin to change towards the MIL.

Let it be clear that I'm not standing in judgment of the OP or her DIL. Just a suggestion in the spirit of trying to be helpful.

Hopefully the OP and her DIL will work out their differences and will begin to see each other in a new light.

Well said!