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[VanSleepy]

On 4/6/2014 beammeupscottie said:

On 4/6/2014 Lucky Charm said:

GMTA? What does that mean?

I don't know.

Great minds think alike

[tansy]

Great minds think alike.

[Nancy Drew]

I am going to sit and think about this. She is the mother of my grandkids and she is my sons wife and that is very important but to balance that with my own wishes is a pickle. Good Night everyone and thanks for the input.

[dmod nj]

Hi Nancy,

I don't know you and can only go by my interpretation of what you posted.

You come off to me as aloof, cold, passive aggressive and not caring about what/how your DIL is feeling.

Perhaps she should have picked a better way and possibly other words to get her point across?? Would you have been open to a chat/lunch/dinner so she could express herself properly?

Maybe you could share one of your interests/hobbies with her?

Maybe you can try something new together...a class, hobby, exercise, plays, reading club.............something you can make your own with her????

I wish you luck with the situation.

I have a wonderful relationship with my mil. We found things in common and found new things we could both enjoy together. She moved out of state and I WISH she were closer.

[VanSleepy]

Good night Nancy.

[tansy]

Night, Nancy. I do think it would be helpful for you to sleep on this. I wish you and your DIL well.

[Lucky Charm]

In your opening post you said not to be around and pestering her, isn't that what all DILs want?

No, I wanted a relationship with my MIL and I wanted a close relationship with my DILs and SIL. They are my family. There is a lot to talk about. The kids for one.

You said you 'babysit' the 7 year old but the others are too little. Oh my gosh, I stayed with mine when they were hours old (let the mommies sleep!).

I have deep maternal instincts and these girls my sons married are as important to me as my own daughter!

If she said this to you then your son is aware of it. Wonder why he hasn't spoken to you? Wonder why you haven't spoken to him about it? Do you think he'll be mad at you (or her) or agree with his wife you are an ice queen?

Could your own son consider you an ice queen?

Oh I want to edit this to add: My mother in law turned out to be an ice queen, but about 17 years into the marriage. Thus I became an 'Ice Queen Daughter in Law' and wore it well. LOL.

[scotttie]

I think the DIL could have found a more tactful way than to call her an ice queen. Not a good way to open dialogue IMO. Nancy sounds like a great MIL to me. I loved my MIL but didn't expect her to be my buddy.

[dmod nj]

On 4/6/2014 Nancy Drew said:

I am going to sit and think about this. She is the mother of my grandkids and she is my sons wife and that is very important but to balance that with my own wishes is a pickle. Good Night everyone and thanks for the input.

Great first step, Nancy.

I wish you well with this situation.

[dmod nj]

On 4/6/2014 Lucky Charm said:

GMTA? What does that mean?

great minds think alike