Community Chat

[terrier3]

Life ALWAYS involves fear. There is no getting around it.

Taking risks, going above and beyond what you think you are capable of achieving, striving to do better and become better...all involve a certain amount of fear.

Embrace fear - it's a sign you are living and growing. 

[panda1234]

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@gigibfs wrote:

I am so sorry to hear of your heartbreak, but Thank God you are brave enough to do something about it.  I have not reached that point yet, it has been 3 yrs since my husband and I divorced. It was not a good marriage and it was freeing to get out of it after 18 yrs. But now I find myself as a 51 yr old woman, with 3 beautiful kids to support, and stay a recluis in my home. I go out only for work and grocery store and sometimes church. I know I am severely depressed, and thinking of going to the doctor for anti-depressants. I have no fear, just no desire  no joy no want to do anything!!! I hate living like i am in prison. Depression is real, and I am comminted to getting out of this rut and living the rest of my life enjoying it, it's never too late to start over. I pray you are successful and find happiness again. And the things you lost, are just that. Things, with no meaning in the end....we can't take possessions to heaven, so I don't worry about material things. God Bless you, take care and may you have peace in your heart Gai

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@gigibfs wrote:

I am so sorry to hear of your heartbreak, but Thank God you are brave enough to do something about it.  I have not reached that point yet, it has been 3 yrs since my husband and I divorced. It was not a good marriage and it was freeing to get out of it after 18 yrs. But now I find myself as a 51 yr old woman, with 3 beautiful kids to support, and stay a recluis in my home. I go out only for work and grocery store and sometimes church. I know I am severely depressed, and thinking of going to the doctor for anti-depressants. I have no fear, just no desire  no joy no want to do anything!!! I hate living like i am in prison. Depression is real, and I am comminted to getting out of this rut and living the rest of my life enjoying it, it's never too late to start over. I pray you are successful and find happiness again. And the things you lost, are just that. Things, with no meaning in the end....we can't take possessions to heaven, so I don't worry about material things. God Bless you, take care and may you have peace in your heart Gail

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Get the meds you need, you will be a new person. Sometimes it takes going thru different ones but stick with it.

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I am so sorry to hear of your heartbreak, but Thank God you are brave enough to do something about it.  I have not reached that point yet, it has been 3 yrs since my husband and I divorced. It was not a good marriage and it was freeing to get out of it after 18 yrs. But now I find myself as a 51 yr old woman, with 3 beautiful kids to support, and stay a recluis in my home. I go out only for work and grocery store and sometimes church. I know I am severely depressed, and thinking of going to the doctor for anti-depressants. I have no fear, just no desire  no joy no want to do anything!!! I hate living like i am in prison. Depression is real, and I am comminted to getting out of this rut and living the rest of my life enjoying it, it's never too late to start over. I pray you are successful and find happiness again. And the things you lost, are just that. Things, with no meaning in the end....we can't take possessions to heaven, so I don't worry about material things. God Bless you, take care and may you have peace in your heart Gail

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[PamfromCT]

Dear ilovehummingbirds, I'm sorry for this most difficult time in your life. Sometimes life can just seem like climbing a mountain. For any of us through hard times, try to lean on your faith even more than usual. I once read that actively saying, "I trust you, Jesus" often during the day is helpful (if that is your faith). Reading your bible and devotionals is soothing. It has helped me endure and get through some pretty tough times. And there is no shame in sharing your ordeal with anyone you feel might help you. If you need some meds to help you, no shame in that. All my best.

[dobiesrule]

Welcome back to the boards, RRR.  Am so sorry your marriage did not work out, but better to find it out now than later on.  I know you are a woman of faith so trust that faith and you will get through this.  Not saying it will be easy, but it can be done.  Best of luck.

[RedTop]

I am sorry for your situation, and the dark place you are living in right now, mentally. I cannot say I have ever been thru anything similar where I actually know how you feel. I do know that we all have one life to live, and we must live it the very best we know how. Each and every minute is precious, and we cannot waste minutes we cannot get back, worrying about our fears, and things we cannot change. Face what has happened and move on. Do not continue to be controlled by your fears. Life is too short not to enjoy being alive, and being happy! Best wishes to you.

[gailcoco]

I don't know how old you are but I think the older you get....the less fear you have.  At least, that's what is happening to me. 

Please try and find a way to stop thinking about your ex.  He's not going to call and he really didn't love you.  He showed and told you.  What you have to do is to go out and find someone who will love you for you.

Try to love yourself first and take the time to do things YOU like to do.  Also, get another lawyer - try a woman.  Men don't really understand our problems.

Good luck and I hope you find a true love.  Gail

[Puzzle Piece]

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@terrier3 wrote:

Life ALWAYS involves fear. There is no getting around it.

Taking risks, going above and beyond what you think you are capable of achieving, striving to do better and become better...all involve a certain amount of fear.

Embrace fear - it's a sign you are living and growing. 

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Exactly.  We will all have fear in our lives.  It molds our character.  Our choices in how we tackle, conquer, or walk away seem to be the test on this journey called life. 

[sunshine45]

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@gailchap wrote:

I don't know how old you are but I think the older you get....the less fear you have.  At least, that's what is happening to me. 

Please try and find a way to stop thinking about your ex.  He's not going to call and he really didn't love you.  He showed and told you.  What you have to do is to go out and find someone who will love you for you.

Try to love yourself first and take the time to do things YOU like to do.  Also, get another lawyer - try a woman.  Men don't really understand our problems.

Good luck and I hope you find a true love.  Gail

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gailchap.......i so agree with you on this......the older i get, the less fear i have AND the more patient i have become. i generally dont let stuff drive me crazy or let it take control of me.