Lending Clothes - Page 7

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

Just because the Mom says he's rich that does not make it so. A lot of parents brag about their kids and hope no one finds out the truth.

I also wonder if maybe the Mom doesn't know exactly what to wear but in that case she can go to the store and ask so that she can get some ideas.

granddi · ‎03-16-2010

@Shelbelle wrote:
People borrow things like evening gowns and wedding gowns all the time.

It sure save the borrower a lot of money.

I very prominent family asked to borrow 2 of my daughter's Prom type dresses. It was a bargin to pay for cleaning vs purchase.

AZfem · ‎04-13-2016

I believe in the phrase "neither a borrower or a lender be". I lent a favorite book to a friend & she lent it to her sister without asking me! Who knows what sister did with it. I had to rebuy the book. She can go to thrift or resale places & find great bargains especially on dressy things that people wear once or twice. It is very presumptuous to call a distant acquaintance & ask for their clothing!

SaveTheTurtles · ‎10-09-2023

It seems this is simply an acquaintance at this point and not someone you even see regularly only talk to on the phone. I would not loan my clothes out to anyone unless as others have said, you don't except to get them back or want the, back. There are plenty of resale shops, goodwill, st Vinny's etc in cities everywhere. I would steer her in that direction.

Trailrun23 · ‎05-31-2022

She probably wouldn't be calling and making such a request if she weren't feeling desperate. You said she is struggling financially so if you have something she could wear I would just give it to her, not expecting it back, but let her consider it borrowing it to save her pride. i think it's nice she called you in her time of need; she must think highly of you. I would call her back if you think you have something that would work for her.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@kaydee50 wrote:
Well, now that we know the son is "wealthy" I would certainly ask him for money to buy an outfit of my choosing rather than relying on an almost stranger to "lend" me her clothing--still think it's a weird request!!!

@kaydee50 @Biftu

Maybe she doesn't have any clothing that "wealthy and sophisticated" people would wear and admires the OP's style?

It really is strange to be asking an acquaintance to borrow something for a wedding .... it's not like borrowing someone's inexpensive sweater.

There's more to this story ......

faeriemoon · ‎03-14-2010

@Sage04 wrote:
@Kachina624 wrote:

@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
@kaydee50 wrote:
Further thought--since her son is paying for her to attend the wedding, maybe she could ask him for some money so she could buy herself an outfit.

Still think it's a strange request from someone you don't know well. And it has nothing to do with being "generous or stingy."

Yes, it does.

Maybe her son is already using all the money he has for the plane ticket so she doesn't want to ask for more.
@ThinkingOutLoud. Then MAYBE she should just stay home and forget the whole thing instead of imposing on others.

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You die and leave these things around. Who wants them then? I would never give someone something I no longer want or like. I would give them something i really like and make sure it fits properly. That's just me.

I'm not sure I would give someone I used to work with, and only keep in touch with a couple of times a year "something I really like." It has nothing to do with the money, but it's very difficult to find an event dress that fits well and looks good. I'm not overly willing to part with them although I gladly would for a real friend.

As I previously stated up-thread, I would be happy to give the former coworker something I am ready to let go of. (And a pair of shoes too.)

~What a terrible era in which idiots govern the blind.~ William Shakespeare

Natureluvr · ‎06-14-2018

Yes, I would and feel very good about being able to help someone.

wagirl · ‎03-09-2010

Now that one is a first for me!! And not sure what to think---a huge difference if that person was a good friend but a casual one? Think I would direct her to the places listed by the posters here or even suggest she try a place at the wedding location----this is something her son should be addressing-----