Lending Clothes - Page 6

ECBG · ‎01-08-2011

I totally "get" what is being said, but her son certainly didn't reach the age to marry over night. I'm a pre-planner. I could always find gowns or party dresses in clearance.

mspatmac · ‎06-10-2015

If I could help someone of course I would!!! How many of us donate clothing, shoes, handbags without a second thought? Why not help if asked?

ThinkingOutLoud · ‎05-01-2020

@Kachina624 wrote:

@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
The answer is simple - just ask yourself if you want to be a person that is generous or stingy.
@ThinkingOutLoud. Give me a break! Wanting to preserve and take good care of your nice things does not make you stingy.

Your statement does make you judgmental

Your over-the-top defensive reaction is telling.

ThinkingOutLoud · ‎05-01-2020

@Kachina624 wrote:

@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
@kaydee50 wrote:
Further thought--since her son is paying for her to attend the wedding, maybe she could ask him for some money so she could buy herself an outfit.

Still think it's a strange request from someone you don't know well. And it has nothing to do with being "generous or stingy."

Yes, it does.

Maybe her son is already using all the money he has for the plane ticket so she doesn't want to ask for more.
@ThinkingOutLoud. Then MAYBE she should just stay home and forget the whole thing instead of imposing on others.

How absurd! You've obviously been triggered and have your own stuff to deal with.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

Basically she's a stranger begging for your clothes. In that situation, I would not lend her clothes. If I had something in my closet that was in great condition but I was never going to wear again, I would gift it to her. Somehow getting the point across that's it's just one time thing.

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

@Biftu I do hope you'll let us know what you decide.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

For me, my closet is your closet. I have many beautiful outfits and I'm only one person. I've received that call many, many times and also for shoes. To me, once I give them away I never think about them again. These are things with the tags still attached.

I must also say I am the person who thinks once you wear it, it's yours and of course I let them choose the outfit they prefer. The last call was two weeks ago for a maid of honor outfit in blue.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

I would go through my clothing and pick out dresses I could spare and let her choose one.

I would not want it back and would just give it to her.

I lent out prom dresses when I was in high school. I told the girls they could keep them, but they were all returned dry cleaned.

I never wore a prom dress twice and really didn't want them back.

This poor lady must be in dire shape to ask to borrow a dress.

It doesn't hurt to be kind. If you can afford it, just let a dress go.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

@Kachina624 wrote:

@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:
@kaydee50 wrote:
Further thought--since her son is paying for her to attend the wedding, maybe she could ask him for some money so she could buy herself an outfit.

Still think it's a strange request from someone you don't know well. And it has nothing to do with being "generous or stingy."

Yes, it does.

Maybe her son is already using all the money he has for the plane ticket so she doesn't want to ask for more.
@ThinkingOutLoud. Then MAYBE she should just stay home and forget the whole thing instead of imposing on others.

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You die and leave these things around. Who wants them then? I would never give someone something I no longer want or like. I would give them something i really like and make sure it fits properly. That's just me.

kaydee50 · ‎02-07-2011

Well, now that we know the son is "wealthy" I would certainly ask him for money to buy an outfit of my choosing rather than relying on an almost stranger to "lend" me her clothing--still think it's a weird request!!!