Kissing Children - Page 13

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

@suzyQ3 wrote:
I understand the protective instincts from some here who recommend calling child protective services or a non-emergency police number, but please don't do this. Either way, such action can end up ruining the lives of innocent people.

If you are worried, talk to the mother of the neighbor girl.

ITA. I am astounded that anyone would think this warrants calling any type of authority.

Talk about causing violence. What do you think might happen when this guy ends up with a visit from CPS?

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

@suzyQ3 wrote:
@pattypeep wrote:
Not good, IMO. I would not have allowed my daughter to go to her friend's house with just the dad there. I would insist that both girls come to my house and play.
There are many dads who are responsible for the care of their children. I would hate think that their kids could never host a play date.

A blanket judgment shouldn't be made. Perhaps it's wise, whether it is the mother or the father, to get to know the person a little better before a get-together and to keep in contact via cellphone during the first visit.

Some of this thinking is so old school.

Many fathers are stay at home dads now. It's not always the mom who is the one staying home. There is nothing wrong with a father hosting a play date for his children.

Just because a woman is there doesn't mean the situation is automatically kosher.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

@fortune wrote:
@Cakers3 wrote:
@fortune wrote:
The man across the street has two children--a girl around 9 and a boy about 7. His wife works a lot and is out of town a lot. He doesn't work and spends a lot of time with the kids when they are not in school.

The little girl plays with my neighbor (also 9 or 10), who spends all her time across the street with her little girl friend, the dad, and the little boy.

I've seen the father kiss my neighbor girl on the lips several times. Is this normal or should this indicate red flags?
@fortune Where is the mother if this little girls spends ALL her time with the dad and his children?

As disturbing as that kiss may be-it is just as disturbing that this girls mother seems to be delegating the care of her daughter to a neighbor.

And do the children of this dad ever play at another house??

Isolation of children is not necessarily bad but it can also indicate issues behind closed doors, although usually outsiders are not allowed in homes where abuse may be going on.

This is not an easy one to answer; I would seek the advice of a professional child protection worker and let them decide.

The neighbor girl spends almost all waking hours playing across the street with the man and his children. The girls are best friends. Children aren't invited into her house because she has a dog that attacks anyone not in the family!

Oh so this is back to the neighbor with the horrible dog? Is this the one you've posted threads about before?

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

OMG so according to some, we now we have a molester for a neighbor watching this little girl AND we have a mother who isn't taking care of her own daughter.

I'm just going to come right out and say that I think the OP knows an awful lot about this entire situation involving what is going on with neighbors. She knows where these kids are and when they are there, how much time they are spending at a house, why they are spending the time there, what this father is doing, why the mother lets the little girl there, why the kids aren't at the mother's home, etc.

There is something odd alright and I'm not sure it's with this male neighbor.

And for the record, just because someone is legally blind doesn't mean they cannot see. I have a relative who is "legally" blind without glasses or contacts.

MoJoV · ‎10-01-2010

I think kissing children on the mouth is wrong. Especially if they aren't yours. Never kissed my kids on the lips and my parents never kissed us that way.

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cherry · ‎03-09-2010

Just because you don't agree with kissing on the lips, doesn't mean the person that does it ,is a child molester or a pervert

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

I am actually shocked that so many seem to think it's okeedokee for an adult male neighbor to be kissing a little girl on the mouth.

Astounding to me.

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

I'm astounded that people condemn someone ,they have never met, nor know nothing about, on such little evidence.

In our system ,a person is presumed innocent , until proven guilty

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

@cherry wrote:
I'm astounded that people condemn someone ,they have never met, nor know nothing about, on such little evidence.

In our system ,a person is presumed innocent , until proven guilty

I don't think anyone has condemned this man. They have simply expressed a very reasonable concern about his behavior.

Some of us are just pointing out a very Big Red Flag that needs attention.