Just when I thought I had heard everything - Page 7

AngelPuppy1 · ‎03-13-2010

This is definitely one of the strangest dating stories I have heard! I don't get it! What was the point in him taking her out to meet them? Where did she actually meet them? Out in front of the camper??? It sounds like they did not actually spend any time with her at all, was that the case? And never invited her into their actual home --- at all? And her so called boyfriend, other than taking her to lunch a couple times, just left her there in the camper alone the whole time? Bizarre to say the least. I would first simply sit him down and say a big -- WHY??? And then say --- I can find no reason for this whole thing. And my other comment for her to make to him is --- GOOD BYE!!!

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night." - Steve Martin

Jersey Born · ‎03-10-2010

@Duckncover - Wow! That was some visit! While there are some among us who would have had the emotional fortitude and maturity to immediately extricate themselves from that unpleasant, unwelcoming, and unconscionable trailer set-up situation, I can understand why she did not leave immediately. I could see how: 1. She felt invested enough in the relationship to the point of expecting (and wanting) to marry this guy even if his parents were completely unkind and even nutty towards her, 2. She felt this banishment from his parent's house was so crazy that it could not really be happening and that conditions would surely improve somehow (no matter how improbable) because she loves this man and wanted to like and be liked by his parents, 3. She wanted to try to "preseve the peace" between herself, her boyfriend, and his parents until she could comprehend the insanity of the situation in which she inexplicably found herself to see if the relationship could possibly be salvaged, and 3. She was not ready (so immediately) to walk away from the relationship and end it.

I hope your niece considers it a WONDERFUL BLESSING that this happened to her, when it did, before she gave any further thought to marrying this horribly insensitive, uncaring guy. She can do so much better! For her sanity's sake, she MUST do better than this, and she owes it to herself to seek out someone kind and loving who will not just sit back and let her be abused by his own parents, but will care about HER needs! Good men are out there, and she will need to seek out someone much better suited for her who will treat her well. I am glad your niece is angry about her experience. She should be. It was outrageous and outright abusive on many levels.

Krimpette · ‎03-09-2010

I'm thinking it was a moral thing....the parents didn't want to deal with the possibility that they might want to sleep together. Their way of avoiding the situation. I haven't read through all the posts (sorry), so forgive my questions: What did she do for all her meals? Did she ever get to spend any time with them at all, other than the original greeting?

RNbynite · ‎05-10-2018

@Duckncover I think that unless and until one knows what the real situation is with his parents, we should avoid judgement, thus advice. That being said, they, as his parents should have let him know how the scenario was going to play out and your niece and he could have made the decision to visit or not........because that arrangement was unacceptable. Not being upfront, and he accepting it, is the real problem IMO.

CJC · ‎03-11-2010

Have only read op, but I don't think this is terrible. It seems a nice idea to provide a private space for someone to stay whom parents do not know. Only thing is the shower. They should have had a shower available to her in the house somewhere. I myself would love this setup. DH and I never stay overnight at someone's house when we travel as we are uncomfortable with such an arrangement. We are private people with our own sleeping and eating schedule, but we do like to visit others during daytime hours.

ECBG · ‎01-08-2011

I would give her a little advice:

If it's this way now?????????

Leave now or look back for the rest of your life!

gidgetgh · ‎03-09-2010

@Krimpette wrote:
I'm thinking it was a moral thing....the parents didn't want to deal with the possibility that they might want to sleep together. Their way of avoiding the situation. I haven't read through all the posts (sorry), so forgive my questions: What did she do for all her meals? Did she ever get to spend any time with them at all, other than the original greeting?

@Krimpette the little camper thing had a hot plate, mini fridge and a toilet. No shower. She didn't shower for the 4 days they were there. And the boyfriend took her out to lunch "a few times". The rest of the time, she sat there in her jail cell by herself.

Why is it, when I have a 50/50 guess at something, I'm always 100% wrong?

gidgetgh · ‎03-09-2010

@CJC wrote:
Have only read op, but I don't think this is terrible. It seems a nice idea to provide a private space for someone to stay whom parents do not know. Only thing is the shower. They should have had a shower available to her in the house somewhere. I myself would love this setup. DH and I never stay overnight at someone's house when we travel as we are uncomfortable with such an arrangement. We are private people with our own sleeping and eating schedule, but we do like to visit others during daytime hours.

@CJC - you're kidding, right? She sat there, by herself, in a trailer with a hot plate, mini fridge, port a potty toilet (no thanks) for 4 days. The wonderful boyfriend took her out to lunch "a few times". Other than that, she just sat there. Give me a break. No freaking way. I'd have been gone from there so fast their heads would have spun.

Why is it, when I have a 50/50 guess at something, I'm always 100% wrong?

Roscoe the Rascal · ‎04-19-2016

Run and do not turn back. It would have been thoughtful if was given for privacy for the couple at night. But no shower and not allowed in house and her boyfriend sleeps in the house. Adios!!

Does not sound like he is very thoughtful either. My husband would have said we are headed to a hotel or stayed a night and left. I would have never stayed 4 days like that and he would never have done that either. Take me to lunch. What a joke.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

There's a reason they kept her out of the house, could they have become hoarders during the Covid restrictions? Did she meet his father, is he the reason? They should have told their son of the situation before he made the decision to invite his girlfriend along. I can't believe he knew.