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[Northray]

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@Sooner wrote:

Letting people treat you any old way sometimes leads to bodily harm.  That's what scares me about this whole deal.  It's not about mad or angry or hurt.  It's about not protecting yourself and getting out of Dodge post haste.  Sounds too scary for me to understand. 

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Her anger and hurt would be justified.  And of course, she needs to close the door on this "relationship".  I hope she does.

[wonderfulworld]

They are making it clear that she will always be "in the driveway" so to speak. They will be number 1.  Boyfriend agrees too ! Move on. I know how disappointed she must be but glad she knows now and not later.

[Mom2Dogs]

In my opinion, boyfriend would be toast...he did not for warn her of her living quarters before the visit...maybe because he thought she would not go!

I don't blame the parents, they obviously told their son that she could not come into the house.  

Boyfriend is a coward.

[spumoni99]

I wouldnt have minded the camper for sleeping as long as I felt safe in the surroundings but not being invited into the house during the day is unacceptable and wierd.  I would never put a young lady in that position for any length of time, if room was the issue I would put my son out there or let them choose what to do, i wouldn't mind them sharing a room though but that may have been an issue for them.  The fact that he was okay inside eating dinner without her would really bother me and wasn't it cold for her?

[occasionalrain]

@Sooner 

The OP said her niece is easy going and quiet so she would have seemed, to him, willing to go along with the trailer plan.Also, the OP said the boyfriend knew nothing of the trailer prior to the visit. Neither knew that she would be refused entry into the house until later.  I think he thought his girlfriend would be welcomed, given a room in the house and, included in meals. Had she objected, I believe they would have left the second day, but she seems to have good manners and, not knowing what to think, just endured rather than make a scene. He was caught in the middle, and took the path of least resistance. Often, when caught in an  unexpected and strange situation, not knowing what to do or say, we lay low. Later, looking back, we can't believe we behaved as we did. We wonder why we didn't say something, why we put up with the situation. It's happened to me. 

[gidgetgh]

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@JamandBread wrote:
I understand how this poor girl could have stayed. She didn't want to make a scene, I'm sure and she was probably stunned and confused by the situation. Women will put up with a lot just to keep the peace.
What she does now where this man is concerned is what matters.

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I may actually throw up. 

[qvcfreak]

I wonder how the guys Parents would feel if they were put out in a trailer with a hot plate and cube fridge and no shower for 4 days. I bet they wouldn't think it was nice then. 

[silkyk]

This says it best....

[Sooner]

I am stunned that any of what was done to her is remotel considered "ok" or anything to be tolerated.  It scares me to pieces that any young woman would allow herself to sleep in the driveway in a camper at her boyfriend's house.  

Nothing about that says to me "ok" "to be tolerated" or even "safe." So I've said too much already but I am in shock. 

[JamandBread]

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@gidgetgh wrote:

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@JamandBread wrote:
I understand how this poor girl could have stayed. She didn't want to make a scene, I'm sure and she was probably stunned and confused by the situation. Women will put up with a lot just to keep the peace.
What she does now where this man is concerned is what matters.

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I may actually throw up. 

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Why?

You've never been in an uncomfortable situation and kept quiet about it in order not to cause a scene?