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[LilacTree]

On 9/9/2014 irishmama5 said: At 59 I do wonder if I will be around to see my Grand children graduate college or marry chances are NO. But I prefer to live now and be greatfull I lived to have grandchildren. I work with Hospice children most don't make it to 5 their parents take it day to day, good place to start day by day.

Very good point irishmama5. Please don't think for one minute that I am not grateful for what I've had. So many of my contemporaries AND my children's contemporaries did not get this many years. Don't think I am not humbled by that.

My own dear mother died at 49. I never lose sight of that.

[Free2be]

Think of it this way:

Tomorrow doesn't exist . . . for anyone. When tomorrow happens, it will be "now".

[LilacTree]

On 9/9/2014 Free2be said:

Think of it this way:

Tomorrow doesn't exist . . . for anyone. When tomorrow happens, it will be "now".

This is true. I have also often thought "yesterday might as well be a billion years ago, since it's just as gone."

So there really is only today, this hour, this minute.

[BellaPaprika]

Seems an appropriate spot to quote the late Joan Rivers:

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is God’s gift; that’s why we call it the present."

[blackhole99]

My husband is 71 and I'm younger, but he doesn't worry about any thing and says we only have today, so relax and enjoy it. I do the worrying for the both of us!

[LaterGator]

Here's my take on this situation. I'm 65 and not in good health but I don't feel like I'm going to die tomorrow. I have a lot of tomorrows left.

What we want is the now. Our entire family lives in Ohio and we live in Southern Arkansas. One of our daughters is expecting her third baby, her first boy. We want to be near them and the rest of our 9 grandchildren. So we're doing everything we can to move back to Ohio.

What I feel badly about is the next home we buy will be our last. It will be our retirement home so to speak so it will be downsized from what we're used to having. We will probably be trading in one of our oversized vehicles for something more economical. Everything we do from here on out will be geared toward retirement and the end. This all makes me kind of sad because we've reached the peak of our lives and are now scaling down the mountain.

I think this is true for a lot of us baby boomers.

[hckynut]

My mind is focused only on the present and making the most of each day I am still around. Talk about anything in the future and my thinking "will I be there then"? I know where I have been and where I am at the present, and to me my mind is not seriously concerned about what I may or may not see in the future.

I still go by the saying I found when I was 19 years old, and my mother used to hate to hear me say:

"Man was born to live, not to prepare for life"

[tansy]

On 9/9/2014 LaterGator said:

Here's my take on this situation. I'm 65 and not in good health but I don't feel like I'm going to die tomorrow. I have a lot of tomorrows left.

What we want is the now. Our entire family lives in Ohio and we live in Southern Arkansas. One of our daughters is expecting her third baby, her first boy. We want to be near them and the rest of our 9 grandchildren. So we're doing everything we can to move back to Ohio.

What I feel badly about is the next home we buy will be our last. It will be our retirement home so to speak so it will be downsized from what we're used to having. We will probably be trading in one of our oversized vehicles for something more economical. Everything we do from here on out will be geared toward retirement and the end. This all makes me kind of sad because we've reached the peak of our lives and are now scaling down the mountain.

I think this is true for a lot of us baby boomers.

You stated this well, LaterGator. I hope you are happy with the move when you can manage it.

[foundinlv]

My 85 year old stepmom told me not to buy her anymore clothing yet I noticed that she lacked certain basics for summer attire. So, I bought her a pair of denim & co shorts and 2 tank tops I saw on clearance and she is finally getting dressed in the morning. Unless I was taking her somewhere she had stopped. She loves her new clothing and it has made her happy.

[Lesa]

Interesting thread.