Community Chat

[Cakers3]

A card is perfectly acceptable to bring to a funeral.  There will be a table set up for them.

Not everyone has a wake, either, where cards are usually left.

Cards brought to the funeral service are fine.

Keep it simple.

[software]

Custom in my circle is to send flowers or a plant unless the family has indicated otherwise, such as a donation to a favorite charity.  

[qbetzforreal]

I would mail the card prior to the service along with the wind chime explaining the symbolisum of the gift.

Postage stamps are a nice to give as people send out acknowledgement cards.

Also, if there is a repast after the service, food to share would probably be greatly appreciated.

[speedy girl]

I think that is a very thoughtful gift for the family. I'm sure they will be very touched. I would just leave it in or next to  the basket that is normally provided for the cards. 

[Love my grandkids]

@MarkeieMark The OP posted that yes she did know the deceased and was specifcally invited to the service. She stated this quite clearly.

[Imaoldhippie]

@Istru ............If you were invited by the family then obviously they want you there.  I think it would be inappropriate if you did not go.  

[Rockycoast]

Yes, do attend. You were invited. But do not bring the gift or card. Mail the card to the family, along with the gift. Bringing either to the funeral would be most inappropriate.

[KatieB]

I would go to the funeral but not take a gift.  I've never received a gift when my family members died.

[Sooner]

I think OP is kind to worry about this. 

She has a good point about when to attend a funeral.  I have had people come to funerals and wondered why they came.  If you are invited that's different.  If you for some reason don't want to go, don't go.  

The family hardly is taking attendance and usually doen't really remembe much about the whole day.  Except any unpleasantness or obnoxious nosey people. 

Just send a card please.  

[depglass]

Your presence is what counts. I've never heard of bringing gifts, you might be the only one.