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[gertrudecloset]

@Mz iMac you little silly you!  I agree!  LOL.

[Carmie]

The question is way too vague.  There is no one size fits all.  Every situation is different.

 Sometimes withholding information is necessary and a kind thing to do.  Sometimes it is not.

I know a young adult man who does not know that his father  was not his biological father.  His mother, father and biological father are all deceased.  My friend who is his mother's twin sister knew and she told me.  She is deceased as well.

I have no reason to tell him.  I have this info in case it is ever medically necessary for him to know.  Telling him this info now will just hurt him.  Is it a lie?   I suppose his mother took her lie to the grave with her.  But she protected her husband and son and herself.

She must have lived a tortured life because of this, but spared others from this pain by keeping quiet.

[IamMrsG]

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  @Sooner wrote:
  

  Do these pants make my butt look fat?

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  Sooner, don't ask the question if you don't want the answer. 😊

[gertrudecloset]

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@Flatbush wrote:

I don't think there is an absolute answer to this. It all depends on each situation. However, lying under oath is always a bad idea.

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@Flatbush you are correct, according to Psychology Today.  At the very least, it's not as cut and dry as we think it is.  However, I will only consider what is usual and customary in our society.  

[Mz iMac]

@CarmieIf I am not mistaken, the actor Jack Nicholson was in his 40's when he found out one of his "sisters" was actually his "mother" & his "parents" were actually his "grandparents."  He found out from Time magazine. 

[agb80]

If a witness omits a key piece of evidence and it ends up either exonerating or convicting someone; that person is in hot water.  For one thing there will be a new trial at taxpayer expense and the person who omitted the truth could be fined, thrown in jail or sued by either party.  Their omission will be seen as a lie although I'm sure some people will continue to lie and say they forgot and was an honest mistake. 

[Sage04]

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@Sooner wrote:

Do these pants make my butt look fat?

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@Sooner  I love it.

[Sage04]

I refuse and I refuse to answer this question!!

[gertrudecloset]

Here we go:

I have a male relative who has had children with several women.  He has been divorced twice.  From both of his unions he has 5 children.  He is in his late fifties, but thinks he's still 35 when it comes to women.  He's always been woman chaser (even when he had one at home).  

About a month ago, I got a call from him wanting to see if he could come visit because he wanted me to meet someone he'd met.  I told him no, because of Covid.  He called about a week or so later and I asked him about the person he wanted me to meet.  He told me it was a woman he's been seeing.  OK.  I know he's not tied down to anyone anymore.

I get more details from my baby sis, that this relative has this younger woman preggers and she doesn't know about all of his other children.  She believes that relative only has 2.  That's all he told her about.  From his first marriage and not his second.  New girl is pregnant too now, under the impression her honey will be having a third child (not knowing her's will be his 6th.

As a family I have never involved myself with his mess. I want no parts of his wheeling and dealing because if I met her, it wouldn't be right for me to say anything to her (and I would not).  I also feel like I would be aiding and abetting his lie.  I personally feel he is lying by ommission and I think this really wrong.

[gertrudecloset]

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@Mz iMac wrote:

@CarmieIf I am not mistaken, the actor Jack Nicholson was in his 40's when he found out one of his "sisters" was actually his "mother" & his "parents" were actually his "grandparents."  He found out from Time magazine. 

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 @Mz iMac I never knew that about Jack Nicholson.  Hmmmm.