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[Moonchilde]

I'm so comfortable with myself for company that I've always felt sorry when people I know have said they just can't handle being alone, like when a DH goes out of town for business and they have to have someone else in the house to keep them company/sleep over - for 1-2 nights! My introvert friends are like yay, I'm on my own for a couple of days ;-)

[MaggieMack]

One of the more interesting things I've read about introverts lately is how many enter the political arena. Can you introverts imagine keeping that schedule? I would be stark raving mad at the end of the day! When I met my late DH, he had run for political office, and he was an introvert with charm and skills of persuasion. Before things got serious, I asked him if he had any intention of running again, because if he did, I was outa there! He didn't, I married him.

[Moonchilde]

@MaggieMack, I know at we can learn to adapt up to a point if we have to. I imagine that would be especially true if it was for something we enjoyed, as in your husband's case.

I had to adapt in a not-enjoy way when I had to take a highly multi-tasking, something-happening-every-minute job - or not *have* a job. I adapted, compromised and coped for almost 18 years - but hated every minute of it. It changed my personality in ways I regret.

[SerenitySilk]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

I'm so comfortable with myself for company that I've always felt sorry when people I know have said they just can't handle being alone, like when a DH goes out of town for business and they have to have someone else in the house to keep them company/sleep over - for 1-2 nights! My introvert friends are like yay, I'm on my own for a couple of days ;-)

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I can so relate to your post. Love being alone. 

Great thread. 

[MaggieMack]

So, @SerenitySilk, @Moonchilde, are the preponderance of people who post here introverts? It gives us the connection we may need with the outside world, while allowing us to be safely ensconced in our places of comfort. We can check out at will.

[Moonchilde]

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@MaggieMack wrote:

So, @SerenitySilk, @Moonchilde, are the preponderance of people who post here introverts? It gives us the connection we may need with the outside world, while allowing us to be safely ensconced in our places of comfort. We can check out at will.

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I do feel (and statistics/studies I've read in the past corroborate) that a those who have a rich online life are well-represented in introverts, whether here or at other forums, personal emails, etc. One reason is that some Types of introverts are very comfortable writing, i.e. being able to think before they speak. Where they may be somewhat tongue-tied in face to face conversations, they aren't online, where they can "say" what they think and feel at their own pace. So yes - at their own pace is definitely important to introverts. Don't rush me ;-)

[SerenitySilk]

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@MaggieMack wrote:

So, @SerenitySilk, @Moonchilde, are the preponderance of people who post here introverts? It gives us the connection we may need with the outside world, while allowing us to be safely ensconced in our places of comfort. We can check out at will.

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I feel there is some truth to your statement about feeling connected. However I can only speak for me,I travel extensively,alone,with friends at the same time I love being alone,I do feel the need to be alone,to recharge,think,read. I'm not anti social,prefer my small group of friends,can't do the small talk for long periods. I will be kind,but reserved in social settings.

[RainCityWoman]

I think people can be introverted in some instances and extroverted in others depending on personal comfort zones. The chief difference in my opinion between true introverts and extroverts is "where" they live most of the time. I think a true introvert lives in his or her head and is content with soitary pursuits of fulfillment. To me an extrovert lives more in the external world and is content with that stimuli to thrive.

[Still Raining]

A really good book about this is "Quiet".  It explains all the strengths an introvert has along with chapters about things like how to raise one.

[winamac1]

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@Moonchilde wrote:

@truffle, Extroverts can feel insecure and lack confidence too, but I suppose it would have more of an effect on an Introvert. An Extrovert might "bounce" easier or faster from a setback. In the working world, in the US, Introverts are used to feeling, being told, and treated as if they don't count. You were a rare co-worker who made the effort to respect them and their contributuon. Thank you :-)

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I respectfully disagree.   I do not think introverts are used to being told and treated as if they don't count.  One, him or herself, can make him or herself feel as if they don't count--be it an extrovert or introvert.

I think some extroverts can often lack confidence and feel insecure as some need constant validation from others.