Community Chat

[CritterKeeper]

@chickenbutt  I think you helped me hit the nail on the head, so to speak. He just thinks they are trashy.

In one way I have the attitude that "life is short and do what makes you happy", but on the other hand, I want to have a peaceful happy marriage.

I'm really torn. I want to have some independence and power (for lack of a better term) over my life. This isn't something I just thought about doing. I have thought and thought about it. 

I have made the appointment and put down the deposit, but perhaps I should call and cancel. Then I feel like I have cheated myself. 

[lolakimono]

@CritterKeeper 

Some religions view it as a desecration of the body, so if that is his objection then I would perhaps reconsider it.

If it is aesthetics, it is your body- do what you want!

[deepwaterdotter]

---

@RollTide2008 wrote:
This isn’t a hill I’d die.

---

I agree.

[Kachina624]

Only you can decide if the uproar that's going to ensue is worth having a tattoo of a foster dog that briefly passed through your life.  I know how few good men there are out there and I personally wouldn't risk it.  Why would you risk your relationship with someone you love for such a frivolous reason? 

I transported, fostered, and adopted rescues for years.  If I'd gotten a tat for every dog, I'd look like a sailor who'd been on too many binges. 

[Big Joanie]

How about a bracelet .. possibly with a charm to depict the

sentiment .....like a paw ...or a written message ....Just a

thought ....

[pdlinda]

@CritterKeeper   Wouldn't it be possible for you to get a bracelet with some type of dog motif that you could put on your wrist (or keep on your wrist)?

That way you could keep your dog-loving sentiment always visible and close to you without offending your husband's sensibilities.

I feel similarly to your husband so I understand his position.  However, you are entitled to embrace your affinity to your rescue dogs.

[kitcat51]

He didn't like the first so you got a second? There's your answer, you don't need any opinions.

[Marp]

I'd be less concerned with "keeping the peace" than festering resentment which could have consequences beyond what you imagined.  Do you have any idea which straw will be the last one?

[SilleeMee]

With advancements in cosmetic procedures, tattoos can be removed these days. If a tattoo causes serious problems within a marriage then have the thing removed. Problem solved. It's not like it's the end of the world or like cheating on him. It's just a tattoo.

[CritterKeeper]

@pdlinda Thank you for your understanding of the importance of my intent. Contrary to a previous poster- my rescues are very important to me and I'm not even going to respond to such rudeness.

A bracelet is a great idea! Thank you for telling me your point of view without being crass.

This is exactly why I asked the question- to give me other points of view and to help see it from his side. I will cancel the appointment.