Re: If you lived in another country, would you mov... - Page 3

cerb · ‎03-09-2010

Interesting question, but one that would be impossible for me to answer without knowing all the circumstances of my alternative life. If I was in a country without many family or friends, was living in poor conditions, and had little chance for improving my lot in life, then I might move to the USA. But if I had a loving network of people in my life, a decent job, and good housing, then I don't know why I would want to move.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

I would move to be with someone I loved, no matter where that would take me. So, yes, I would.

When my husband and I were in Vietnam, we visited a village and went to their open air market. The people selling their wares were older people and they did not speak English.

We "hired" a young girl who was about 12 years old to help us. She spoke English and Vietnamese very well. With her help we negotiated several purchases.

She was the cutest thing. She put her hands on her hips and rolled her eyes.... just like an American teen. My husband asked her if she would like to live in America and we were both surprised when she said "NO." She said she was happy in Vietnam and would never want to move to America. She said she would never leave her family and loved ones and had everything she needed there. VIetnam was her home.

Smart girl.

gmkb · ‎07-29-2012

Sounds like he is looking for a little adventure. He just needs some maturing time before making this decision. Hopefully your granddaughter won't encourage this move.

Oznell · ‎11-08-2014

I lived the majority of my first 19 years in an advanced, industrialized Western democracy, which is also home to most of my relatives. That particular country has made a steep lurch toward "democratic socialism" over the course of my lifetime. We were here in the U.S. when I was a very small child, and then later I came here for college.

I would still come to America, if I hadn't already, and if America in its generosity would have me. I prize the American republic, American ideals, the genius of the traditional American spirit, and liberty. I personally see America as the "shining city on the hill", and believe in American exceptionalism.

Doesn't mean I don't appreciate the appealing aspects of other countries, many of which I also love for various reasons. Doesn't mean the U.S. hasn't made mistakes, serious ones, as it grew from an infant country to a great nation. But I'm eternally grateful for the U.S., and what it stands for in the world, and the sacrifices its people have made to make this world a better place.

Yup, I'd come here.

jaxs mom · ‎04-18-2012

People do it and I know a lot of people that met online that ended up getting married. It's pretty common now.

Don't Change Your Authenticity for Approval

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

When I married my first husband I knew his job meant that we would travel all over the world together and be gone for months at a time. We did that , never regretted the time we spent away from the USA as long as we were together. When he died , I was happy that I had not tried to tie him down but had allowed him to have the life he loved. BTW - I personally have lived all iover the world , but never found anywere I loved as I loved being in the USA.

HSB1204 · ‎12-29-2014

I was born and raised in Scandinavia and moved to the U.S. in my early 20s. The only reason why I moved here was to be with my husband. Would I have moved here otherwise? Absolutely not.

If your granddaughter's friend wants to move to the U.S. he needs to realize that things are very different here and if he can't adjust to that, he should probably just stay in Scotland. If he's very close to his family he should also consider whether or not he can live on the other side of the planet. If the only person he knows in the U.S. is your granddaughter he would rely heavily on her until he makes more friends. Unless he'd have the money to fly back to visit his family whenever he wanted to or they could come here to visit he shouldn't expect to see them very often. He really needs to think this through before he packs up and moves.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

@151949 wrote:
When I married my first husband I knew his job meant that we would travel all over the world together and be gone for months at a time. We did that , never regretted the time we spent away from the USA as long as we were together. When he died , I was happy that I had not tried to tie him down but had allowed him to have the life he loved. BTW - I personally have lived all iover the world , but never found anywere I loved as I loved being in the USA.

@151949You speak so fondly of your former husband and it's easy to tell you were madly in love with him.

I know you're remarried and to a HS sweetheart and I'm sure you're aware of how rare it is to find true love twice in your lifetime.

You have been blessed for sure.

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

Since I don't live in another country I really couldn't say.

Too hypothetical.

Stray · ‎04-20-2013

That decision depends on your age and the Country you live in. I live part time in Italy and travel a lot. Almost every young person I have spoken to over the years, have the dream of coming to the USA, either an extended visit or to live. I've also spoken to many who have lived here and returned to their homeland. Italians, KiWis, Australians seem to prefer their own countries. Many comment on the level of stress here in the USA and that was the most difficult to deal with and that seems to be universal complaint across cultures re this Country. Basically, they liked it here.

for me, I love Italy, particularly, but I love the European way of life, however, at some point, I long for home and am happy to get back.

I also have concerns about health care. If you are younger, the systems in other countries are acceptable but if you have a chronic condition, are older or experience an emergency, I for one, prefer ours....others may be free but it's not the best nor is it easily accessed.