Re: If You're A Woman Without Her Mother!

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@KailaS wrote:
I lost my mother a little over two years ago on Oct. 9, 2023. She was a few weeks short of 98. If you had told me throughout my life that I would miss her, I never would have believed you. However, as we grew older, we seemed to become closer. In her last 14 months I was her caregiver two days a week. What a great gift that was. She had macular degeneration ( which I now have), stage 4 lung cancer, and dementia. However, we talked, sang silly songs, and enjoyed one another's company. She did not always remember who I was, but she taught me to love her, and I miss her very much.

@KailaS Welcome!🥰 Your post especially hit home for me! I am crying as I read your heartfelt words, as I am relating on a deeply personal level!!!!😢😢You are a good daughter, and was a BLESSING to her when she needed you the most❤️I am SO happy to have started this thead today! Several of your stories closely resemble my own, and that makes them even more special! I find them to be comforting!❤️

I have been diagnosed with mild dementia TWICE in four years!😔 The last being last month! I was hoping for a different "name" for what I have been living with for some years now! It is slowly getting worse and affecting EVERY aspect of my daily life; including my writing, cooking and especially MEMORY! I even went to the men's restroom at Kaiser on Wednesday!😲The sign looked right to me from the outside, but boy was I wrong! THANK goodness no men walked in!😁

One of the things my new neurologist suggested was to engage in abstract thought as much as possible, so I try to chat, but it does not always come easy! I make SO many mistakes that I have to correct, and it makes me not want to try. My daughters have been with me EVERY step of the way as frustrating as it is for them, and will ALWAYS be! I am SO happy to know you were an ANGEL to your dear mother when she needed you the most!❤️

THANK you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your experience this evening, and please forgive this lenghty post!❤️

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@MissRose722 wrote:
@SandySparkles

Many, Many Thank Yous for this beautiful message, and I can definitely relate to every word. My beloved Mom passed away just over 10 years ago at the age of 87. I am so thankful for all the time we had together. Mom came from Sicily to the U.S. in 1935, arriving at Ellis Island. She worked nearly 50 years as a saleslady in a pharmacy, and was also a great advocate of reading. Mom's name is on the Wall of Honor at Ellis Island, and she got to see her name there while she was in good health; she was so moved by it. She was and will always be my role model.

@MissRose722 You are MOST welcome!🥰 I just responded to a beautiful post, and yours is absolutely BEAUTIFUL as well!✨✨How AMAZING, and IMPRESSIVE your dear mothers' respected life was!!!! She is a true American success story and sounds like such a very SPECIAL lady!

Even more special is having her name on the wall!❤️❤️

THANK you SO very much for sharing your dear mother's American success story this evening!🤗 I THOROUGHLY enjoyed it!✨✨

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

vacagirl · ‎07-12-2024

Thank you for this post. My mother has been gone for 26 years and her birthday and RIP day is coming up in a few days. I needed to see this as I miss her more than ever.

qvcfreak · ‎03-10-2010

Mom passed away 15 years ago. She was amazing and taught us to love each other (siblings) and to let go of the little things. We are 5 siblings and are very close. We are all in our 60's and our brother is very ill. I can't even imagine if he were to pass.

We were poor growing up but our home was filled with love and laughter. Mom was so proud of our achievements, no matter how small.

Love and miss you Mom

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@vacagirl wrote:
Thank you for this post. My mother has been gone for 26 years and her birthday and RIP day is coming up in a few days. I needed to see this as I miss her more than ever.

@vacagirl You are MOST welcome!🥰 AWWWWW!🤗 I am SO HAPPY you take solace in the BEAUTIFUL and inspiring words expressed in the the postings of LOVE❤️ and appreciation!!! I know it is likely a tough time for you🤗, but I hope you leave with a reason to smile!!!❤️

THANK you for sharing this evening!❤️

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

theresa · ‎09-13-2010

@SandySparkles enjoy reading your posts especially this one about Mothers. I was a very fortunate girl to have the most loving parents ever! I miss both of them so much.

Today's post was a tearjerker but I absolutely loved it!! Happy tears!

I'm sorry you are dealing with dementia. You seem to be very young. Prayers are being sent to you!

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@qvcfreak wrote:
Mom passed away 15 years ago. She was amazing and taught us to love each other (siblings) and to let go of the little things. We are 5 siblings and are very close. We are all in our 60's and our brother is very ill. I can't even imagine if he were to pass.
We were poor growing up but our home was filled with love and laughter. Mom was so proud of our achievements, no matter how small.

Love and miss you Mom

@qvcfreak Welcome!🥰 I am SO sorry to read of your dear brother's declining health, and am sending HEARTFELT prayers of healing for him!!!! ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

Your dear mother sounds like she was quite a SPECIAL lady who was well LOVED❤️, and did a GREAT job raising your siblings and you!🙂

THANK you for sharing your MOM today!❤️

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

Thank you for posting these heartfelt essays @SandySparkles. And thank you to everyone else for your comments.

I miss my mom every day. After she died it took everything in me not to dial her number - the number I knew from the time I was 12. It was the weirdest feeling. To this day, I find myself just sobbing with the ache of losing her.

The hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life was drive to her home and tell her my brother wasn't going to make it. I still remember her exact words, as we both sobbed in each other's arms, "Oh, I can't lose my son." But she did.

DD will remember her; DS won't. He was just a year old when she died. But DD still talks about her.

One funny "mom" story: We didn't live near her. Christmas was coming, and DH and I wanted to get DD a Fisher Price Little People set. Mom said she would get it. Six of the sets were going on sale at a store near her, so she sent us the flyer. DH and I poured over that flyer, trying to decide which set she would get. Finally we narrowed it down to either the farm or the airport. We told her our first choice was the farm and our second choice was the airport. She said she would get one of them. A few days later she called. I asked her which one she got. She said, "Oh, I got all of them." I told her she shouldn't have done that. Her response: "Well she doesn't have any of them does she?"

Mom always flew to be with us for Christmas, and she sent all those sets and more ahead of her. That Christmas DD got 6 Little People sets from her grandmother. And we played with all of them for years!

SandySparkles · ‎06-13-2010

@theresa wrote:
@SandySparkles enjoy reading your posts especially this one about Mothers. I was a very fortunate girl to have the most loving parents ever! I miss both of them so much.
Today's post was a tearjerker but I absolutely loved it!! Happy tears!

I'm sorry you are dealing with dementia. You seem to be very young. Prayers are being sent to you!

@theresa Welcome!🥰 Awwww! THANK you for your kind words AND prayers🙏🏻; I really appreciate them!❤️

I am SO glad you are enjoying the thread, as I am enjoying reading the posts of LOVE❤️ expressed this evening! It makes my heart happy!🥰 I will sign off with a smile this evening because of posters like you, and I THANK you for that!🙂

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

KailaS · ‎03-09-2010

@SandySparkles

I love your posts and the discussions you tend to encourage. I am so sorry about the mild dementia. Please do not ever feel that mistakes make your writing less important. My not seeing well makes me sometimes feel that way, but look at the memories you stimulate and the honesty your posts prompt. The mistakes are not important. Sharing yourself with us is what really is important. ❤️