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[justashopper]

Over a month ago, the man I dated for a year and a half dumped me. It hurt my feelings because I thought he loved me and we had a future. Nothing happened, he just started treating me like I was not very important. Hard to explain but silly things/comments he made a week or so before the dumping come to mind.

I actually think he must have met someone else or something.... it's the only thing I can think of. So I was devastated and pretty much felt like total dirt. Also it's important to note, that the week before, I had a bad pap smear result and I was very frightened by this. So there was also a feeling of-- wow, you are dumping me when I am at a really low point. Not that I expect a person to stay with someone they don't want to out of pity. but I think a person that claimed to love me and want a future with me, would be a little kinder than to drop me like a hot potato out of the blue.

But I faced reality-- rejection is tough and I will never understand "the why" and I am feeling okay about it. I have actually started to feel thankful. Thankful that I now, have the opportunity to find someone that will love me for real and not flake out on me for an unknown reason.

I just wanted to say this. So thanks for listening (reading) I can't really talk to anyone in my life about this because there is so much anger on my loved ones parts, that any conversation about him, turns into a bash session on him. And I am really just trying to get past it, not bash.

But I just want to say-- I deserve better and will find someone better. And anyone in a similiar situation-- you can/will too! Never settle. Just don't.

Thanks!