Community Chat

[qualitygal]

Seems some people do want the truth and nothing but the truth, others to a certain degree. How do you feel about what you receive on the truth or what you give in regards to the truth. I like the truth. My preference, both ways.

You can be hurt by truth as well as non-truths. I'd still rather have the truth. I'd rather not say anything than hurt someone's feelings. So you can be silent too. It's a slippery slope for some issues.

[pattypeep]

Not quite following your post; however, I will say this. If someone asks my opinion on something, they will get the truth. I supervised a group of women when I worked and one of them often came to me and asked my opinion of the outfit she was wearing (as a friend, not a supervisor). She had a bit of trouble putting things together. Anyway, years later she told me that she really appreciated how I always gave her my honest opinion on things and didn't sugarcoat.

[nun ya]

sorry wrong post

[straykatz]

While the truth may be hard to swallow from time to time I would rather a person be honest...plus....IMO the truth doesn't hurt as much as a painful/rude delivery.

[magicmoodz]

I usually post on the Fashion Forum. Now I don't see any point in deliberately hurting someone's feelings by saying their new purchase is an ugly, cheap-looking piece of ___!

However, I am amazed and quite frankly saddened by women who feel compelled to lie over innocuous topics such as their fashion purchases or other sundry postings for which I will not be specific.

For the time being I am trying to act like a lady and sit on my hands. But someday someone is going to tick me off to the point of. . .

[gazelle77]

I like honesty in a person. Yes honesty can hurt feelings, but it also can open minds to seeing something in a different way. Living in denial is not a good way to live, and if a person can change what they do for the better by someone else being honest and up front with them, that comment is a pathway for that change. You have to draw the line when it comes to meanness. Many people confuse the two. As far as commenting on fashion. Or jewelry or such...one person's like may be another person's dislike. That is an opinion and everyone can have their opinion. I have an example. I purchased a multi stone bracelet years ago and another person commented one day that it looked like fairy vomit. Ok. It was her opinion. I looked at the bracelet and realized I bought it without really knowing if I liked it.....that comment saved me over $100 as I sent it back....she was right! It did look like fairy vomit! You have to be open to other viewpoints....not take offense. You do not have to believe that viewpoint unless you want to.

[QueenDanceALot]

I don't think it's black and white.

Honesty is not ALWAYS the best policy.

[dooBdoo]

I think this differs from one person to the next because truth is sometimes subjective. It takes more effort to evaluate the need to convey a "truth" to someone, really think about why we're doing this, and to choose words carefully if we deem it necessary to so. I've seen too many people who enjoy proclaiming their "brutal honesty" but upon closer scrutiny it's the brutality they relish and not the so-called honesty. There's a saying that sometimes it's better to be kind than to be right. I believe that to be true.

[straykatz]

I believe it is how we deliver the truth that can hurt...not the truth itself....also....the written word can often come across harshly when we read because it does not afford us the abilty to add/detect body language, facial expressions, or voice tones.

[WaJa61]

When I give my honest opinion, I try to remember to do so in a way that I'd appreciate receiving it from others. Not sugar-coated, but with the best of intensions.

And no, not every opinion needs to be given. If it's not of benefit -- not even solicited, I try to refrain.